"Battle Hymn of the tiger mother," by far the most, perhaps, discussed the book on the Internet. Its author - a professor of the Law School of Yale University, a Chinese woman named Amy Chua - brought two very successful daughters, one of whom was the famous pianist and the second succeeded in tennis, however, after giving up a career violinist. Everyone who has read this book, has an opinion about its contents. Even those who never it did not open. What all this excitement?
Let's start with the fact that the book is really very ambiguous. At some points it is shocking Western readers stringent eastern approaches to education. But what is so special about the techniques of Chinese mothers? Let's find out.
• The child must earn the praise. That is how Chinese parents believe, and in this they differ from the European ones, who praise their children at the slightest provocation. Chinese mothers prefer to criticize their children. In doing so, they are generous 200%, considering that so much more efficient to encourage the child to act, rather than praise.
• Obedience is paramount.God forbid Chinese child to disobey seniors! Terrible example for any parent (except the Chinese, of course) will be the situation when the author has exposed three year old daughter in the cold outside. Due to the fact that pipsqueak not want to play scales. Well, the East - a delicate matter. There's only the mother decides that it is important and it is better to her baby and is never specified.
• There is no independence. The complete subordination of the parents from the children - the only chance to get a child's "peaceful" life in the family.
• «You have to be only the first." The phrase "fonit" in every cell of the parent of the mind and the child is brought to consciousness, starting from birth. Even the rating of "5-minus" - this is very bad. Only the highest score. By the way, an exception to this rule, after all, is: you can not be an excellent student in physical education and drama.
• No trips to friends, even birthday. This decision is announced, and the child was originally based on the fact that such "attacks" - a waste of time. In addition to their peers in the list animals and public works - also take away precious time. And if the child still want something to do besides study, it should be one thing and the condition to achieve in this field the best results.
• Load the child must be the clock.According to the Chinese mothers, childhood is not given to children for entertainment, and to prepare for a decent adult life. It is the law in Chinese families, which is not negotiable.
• The identity of the child is determined by its success. It sounds very harsh, but it is the reality of Oriental children and their parents are deeply convinced that their offspring laid enough power (even if the children themselves doubt this) to be successful.
At first glance, this method of education seems to be inquisitorial, the bud-breaking mentality of children. However, the Chinese mother piously assured: so children "hardened" in the school and student's age far ahead of the development of their peers and, eventually, they grow really very successful people.
Should I read this book? Of course, it is worth. After all, the secrets of education of every mom - this is another experience in the treasury of any parent. Even if it is an experience-tigress mother.
