Think of how you feel after "narychali" to his child? Even over. The unpleasant aftertaste "showdown" so uncomfortable in the shower... and a sense of shame for their own lack of restraint is eating more and more with each passing minute. Well, unless it was impossible to find out differently, you ask yourself and understand that is not the first time asking this rhetorical question. How could cope with their emotions, to the hottest moment "not breaking anything?"
Method one: to stop in time
It is difficult, but not gods burn pots. So how do you know that turn into a volcano that is ready is about to "erupt" cry, tell your child that you talk to him in 5 minutes and leave the room. Alone with a try to throw out the emotions (to scream into a pillow), and better - to transform the negative: jump, poprisedayte, tear a piece of paper into small pieces, do 20 breaths. Anger will leave, and you can go back to the conversation with the child.
Method two: learn to inhibit himself in anger
If you retire from the room you can not (do not want), or too late, Use the "pictures in the head" - is very effective, it must be confessed, I'll use it often.
• Once you know that breaks down to cry, imagine how the expression of your face Now your child sees. I sometimes adds to the feeling, and I say to myself that this could be the last face that my child will remember for a lifetime. Very sobering.
• Another effective way to recover - is to imagine that someone is a stranger, an outsider was blamed for misbehavior my baby the very same words that I just was going to "pour" on it (!). Immediately seem that the reason for such an insignificant scandal, and my child - a small, poor crumb ...
• In public, especially in the important personalities, we zhurim children, but do not criticize, including decibels, right? So, if you are bursting with the desire to shout at a child, imagine that behind the wall, a very important person sitting in the next room. Voice and emotions themselves subside on its own.
Method three: include positive
When we cry? When we are under stress, when tired, hungry, and in general, a reason for joy, we had a hundred years ago... Familiar? From here legs stress and grow. If we do not have enough positive energy, we will select it from those who can give it - that is, their children. But in a "volcano" that energy we denigrate, weighing the negative.
Therefore, for the sake of the children do not bring themselves to exhaustion work, socializing with "toxic" people often relax, do currently little surprises (warm shower, hot bath with aromatic salts, delicious tea, and interesting film etc.). By the way, regular exercise can work wonders with our character and negative, and a bonus - a beautiful figure.
And finally, I would say. Wise psychologist Erma Bombeck revealed a stunningly faithful regularity: the child needs your love the most is when he least deserves it. Take into service - very helpful.
