For some reason, we have decided that it is necessary to force the child to learn. But this is completely unnatural. All children are by nature very curious and just love to learn something new.
But for some reason it often happens that the kid who was looking forward to when he will go to the first class, was soon completely lose interest in their studies, are reluctant to go to school and do homework. What is this phenomenon and how to cope with it, let's see.
Independence. Very often it happens that mothers complain that they do with the child lessons and costs them aside for a few minutes, as a child, too distracted and make a lot of mistakes. And they ripped pages and are a child of the soul, rewriting again and again. As a result - and sobbing pipsqueak harassed and already tired after working mom wants to just about making it all stopped. So what to do?
When it comes to first-graders, of course, with the lessons he needs help, but do not make them for the child. You may suggest, advise, explain and step aside. Gradually weakening control, and eventually interfering with the process of doing homework, but when the child asks him to explain something and checking the finished work. But if he does something wrong, he will put a bad grade? The child goes to school to learn, not to demonstrate their knowledge. And getting a bad evaluation - it's normal, it's part of the learning process. Suppose he gets his deuce and he corrects them. This is better than to study for it. The school should develop a child's ability to think and understand that this is his area of responsibility.
Parental ambition.We all want to give the child the best education. And we try to upload it to the maximum, by choosing the "strong" school, often focusing on the objective abilities of the child. And then it turns out that he just "does not pull." A child who understands that he can not cease to hear praise from parents, just lose heart and lose interest in learning. If this happens, you should try to bridge the gap in knowledge, it is better if the child work out with a professional teacher. Or if the school he really can not afford, for example, he has a penchant for languages, and you have decided to send him to the mathematical Lyceum, discuss it with your child, perhaps the best solution would be to send him to study in an institution corresponding to its abilities.
And most importantly: do not scold the child for poor grades, support it and cheered. Expressed his belief that he is required to succeed. Well, if the child has after-school hobbies, interests, in which he achieves the results, for example, sports or creative circles. They will give him a sense of self-reliance.
What to do in the absence of a child's interest in certain subjects?It so happens that the child as a whole to learn well, but for some subjects is seriously lagging behind. We need to find out the reason. Maybe teachers who conveys the material boring and uninteresting, and the child may be missing something, and now it went on, and he can not grasp the new topic without the loss of the previous one. Once the cause is found, it must be removed.
To awaken the interest of the child to the object you need to help him to look at it from the other side, to show its practical side, which is useful to him in life. Perhaps look with popular science films, look for something exciting, which is not in the textbooks, the Internet. For example, to stimulate interest in physics or chemistry, you can observe the natural processes, to put together the simplest experiments. I do not like math? Look for games on the network associated with problem solving, etc. Keep your child's natural interest in the world around them, encourage him to love to ask questions. Do not be afraid to show their ignorance in this or that sphere, joint search for answers to the questions will benefit both the child's interest in learning, and your relationships.
Relationships with classmates. One of the reasons for the decline of interest in the study and reluctance to go to school can be a conflict with classmates. Talk to your child and try to find out if he has friends in the classroom, how relations with other children, and if there is a conflict, what is the cause. Listen carefully to the child, do not criticize, show that you are on his side, and try to find an effective solution to exit from a conflict situation.
Motivation.The child should be clearly understood why he learn. Conversations in the family that "learn not to learn, but do not reach without connections or money" will not be a good motivation. But understanding that the proper knowledge, he can not find a job that turned up, but the one which he really want to do, that he will be able to become who wish to, can actually be a good stimulus work. Never in the presence of a child does not say that "he would not be able", this you kill him any desire to develop. Moral support of parents is very important for the child's academic achievement.
So, to sum up, the child is not lost interest in the study:
1. Do not press on the child, and Naladte contact and quietly discuss school goals. The child is important to understand that you notice and appreciate his achievements and not just criticize the failure. Use phrases like, "I understand you, I, too, so it was in the school," "I see you still can not, but ..." "I know you can."
2. Encourage natural curiosity of the child and the educational interest of peace. Talk with him on various topics, answer questions, calling his attention to the fact that the child may be interested.
3. Praise your child correctly. "You have this great idea!", "How do you do it? Show me, I want to learn. "
4. Do not compare the child with other children, but only with him yesterday itself. "Good for you, today you performed the task better than yesterday," "Something you today not to try, yesterday you solved the problem quickly."
5. Do not use a false motivation, convince a child that your happiness and good mood depends on his success in school. The child learns for himself, and not for you, but to make an adult happy - an impossible task for a child. Do not form in him a feeling of guilt, "my mother bad from what I have not tried." Use motivation, which refers to the child's life, and not to yours.
