When a woman has a child under the heart, they are closely connected by the umbilical cord. But when the crumb is born, the relationship between mother and baby remains unbroken, gradually (but not much), weakening only as they mature crumbs. And there is nothing worse for a mother when her child is often sick. She drives him from doctor to doctor, baby hands over analyzes, undergoing tests, he administered the treatment, but the disease does not stop.
Psychologists say that children are often the disease is closely linked to the mother's psychological state. We, unwittingly, is the cause of the disease remains. To remedy the situation, you need to take care of ourselves, to work out their feelings and within themselves to help heal the child.
We are looking for the cause.For example, a newborn baby is sleeping restlessly. The pediatrician recommends for the night to make crumbs bath with soothing herbs, but it does not help. And the thing is my mother's anxiety. She reads a lot of books and magazines about the care of the crumbs, sits on the forums for parents trying to do everything by the rules and constantly worried about whether to get her baby to be a good mom. It is natural that in this situation it is constantly under stress. And if something (in her opinion) is not so, it begins to reproach myself, "I am a bad mother."
It is rooted in deeper and with the help of others who constantly give advice and make comments. Especially in this succeed our own mother: "I raised you without diapers, and washing machines, but a diaper ironed on both sides, and you ..." And so the stress begins to flow smoothly into depression. The child is always "read" my mother's condition, as well as feel the atmosphere prevailing in the family. So if you want to grow up physically and mentally healthy crumb first of all learn to relieve stress, get rid of feelings of guilt and other negative emotions. All that is necessary for the child to be healthy, - a happy mom. Therefore, in spite of their workload, start doing something for yourself. Let it be one small thing - aromatic bath, a cup of herbal tea, a trip to the beauty salon. And please do not try this with a sense of guilt, that you have left at the time of the child to her husband, grandmother or nanny.
What to look for and what to work if ...
1. The child has a constant runny nose. Between his parents accumulated grievances. Talk with her husband and try to sincerely forgive each other.
2. scattered kid, can not concentrate. His mother is prone to an increased control of the family. It may also say that she needed to learn to trust her husband.
3. The child has problem skin on the face. You often ashamed of their child or themselves feel a sense of shame, and you need to learn to let him go.
4. Any children's whims - is the availability of claims in the parents to each other, a sense of dissatisfaction and frustration, which must be avoided.
And know that I recognize myself in the fact that you feel envy, jealousy, guilt or other destructive feelings, you do the first step in a conscious work on them, due to which a lot can change in their lives and in the life of child. Take care of yourself and your loved ones!
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