Even yesterday, your baby was quiet, nice and quiet child, and now turned into a little "tyrant" who arranges hysterics every minute, rude, naughty and ignores the request of parents.
Do not be scared about it because with this stage of "growing up" when a child wants to prove himself asindependent person,faces in a certain period of life of every parent.
Such a thing as a "crisis of three years" - is inevitable period of time in the development of each child, so to speak, emotional adjustment, which generally depends on the character and temperament of the child, family and educational process, and even the relationship between the parents. So do not be nervous and waste to lose consciousness of despair. Just learn to be with the child on an equal footing and help a little "rebel" to survive this difficult period of his life.
Symptoms "crisis of three years." In order to cope with the problem, you need to know its "face". At that moment, the children all kind trying to demonstrate their anger adult, which is manifested in the following:
- opposition - the most elementary disobedience expressed negativity towards the child to an adult. In this case, the baby steps over himself and abandons his desires, even if they coincide with the requirements of parents. And all because the child is fundamentally does not want to be led by an adult and will be until the last stand against him.
- stubbornness- skips to the time when the baby makes with respect to the adult specific requirements. And most interesting is that all of these requirements, he is ready to defend to the last, even though arising from the consequences of all this history.
- Despotism- manipulation of adults, demand constant attention and immediate fulfillment of all wishes. This selfish behavior is typical of children who are brought up in one family.
- depreciation- manifested in the form of rejection of all previous favorite hobbies, habits and valuables. The child ceases to appreciate all the things that had previously been important to him. He is without compassion and guilt feelings can rip your favorite book, the offending animal, say a bad word sister.
- self-will- demonstrative saying "I did!". The very moment when a child wants to do everything on their own, without the help of an adult. The first attempts to feed themselves, dress, wash the plate - all this valuable experience, which can not escape. Children learn from their mistakes and in this case you just need to support them, stay close and hedging in case of failure.
- Protest- the child's reaction, expressed in self-defense. The very moment when the baby is persistently trying to prove to the world that his desire is just as important as the desire of people around him.
- refractoriness- the negative attitude of the child to the education system, as well as the daily norm of habitual way of life. All that was offered to the baby, seen from him only refusal.
Advice for parents who have experienced a "crisis of three years"
- come together to an educational process - together praise the child, punish, encourage, forgive and go on concessions.
- remain calm and approach to the problem wisely - Do not allow your child to take the situation into their own hands. The child must be your opinion, but it should not be forgotten that the parent is the main authority for him.
- Allow the child to be independent - when he offers his help, make sure you take it, and then do not forget to praise.
- often resort to tricks - in case of failure in the bath treatment, ask my daughter to bathe a doll, and at the unwillingness to dress give the child the right to choose between red and blue dress, as well as offer his son to test drive the car, in order to bring the baby for a walk in a park.
- Listen to the child's opinion, go to compromise, Do not be dogmatic in the details and find a common solution.
In life, everyone there, both dark and light stripes. They pursue the person from birth to old age, and overcome all the trials we help our loved ones and the native people. Take care of each other, love your children, appreciate them and respect, spend together as much time as possible, and remember that all the crises always come to an end.
Also be sure to ask about why the child fights and bites and how to stop it
