Profanity children: how to respond to parents

Someone is a memorable event happens to campaign in kindergarten, someone "steals" in the sandbox, and some kids learn looser language, without leaving home. The latter is particularly sad.

The sudden expansion of vocabulary

Yes, it happens just as a surprise. Most often, the pipsqueak, not realizing gladly utters ambiguous, and even bad words. The new sound is particularly interesting for the child and it tends to try new momentum again and again. In part, this helps:

• the reaction of some adults who are touched kaverkanomu pronunciation swear words at the expense of a special children's articulation. They laugh, sometimes even asking to repeat. From the looks horrible, but this phenomenon is taking place in the private garden, and among friends (friends, neighbors), and even at home. Children see the positive effect of spoken words, see what they are doing adult fun (so good) and, of course, tend to repeat their success;
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• the reaction of some children who seem to already understand that saying too much and bad. And because the thrust to overstep the forbidden line is even greater. So, giggle in the corner and said in his ear to each other a few strong words becomes something - something like a "circle of friends". How can you resist when growing need for social support;
• private child experiments with speech and language that allow a variety of options, including not the priglyadny - borrowing vocabulary of swear words and other dissonant.
• Finally, the mat of the children's mouth may sound due to the elementary imitation. This is especially true tots aged one and a half to five years.

So, if your ears suddenly touched dubious word spoken blond and puhloschekim child, will have to act immediately. The whole question is how?

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Do not panic!

Parents - are the closest child to people who take him as yourself. Even when a child exhibits inappropriate behavior and provoked. Swear words coming from the baby - that is no reason for conflict. Let's take the case under consideration the situation as a great test of parental wisdom and resourcefulness. Let us examine the possible options.

probable error

• shaming If we begin to actively condemn and shame the child (especially for foreign people), we achieve a growth of emotional stress and quiet hatred on the part of Chad. The child begins to feel an outcast, unworthy of love, in other words, the "bad". But! - he does not feel remorse for his words. Be sure to be ashamed of the crumbs, you decide the problem of the mat, but still more aktsentiruete attention on it. And, most likely, you will hear many new words in the very near future.
• Search reason for regulating the behavior of all. It so happens that one spoken word leads the global educational measures. Child and remember what he said now and then that he was not removed / broken / smeared a few weeks ago. In other words, at times, our educational measures to expand the scale of the universe, where the initial reason to quickly lose value. It is best to act a "point". If you decide to deal with the child for the bad language, limit only this reason. Explain your attitude is about the spoken word, and do not fall down in a heap all faults. Otherwise, the child once again feels "bad" and infamous for being parents. And this is not so!
• Borrowing warlike vocabulary. Showing anger, do not forget to rein in his own speech. Otherwise, the suggestion that we can not say it is "the" word "the same" words will be highly unconvincing.
• Cult of personality. If we do not allow the child to say certain words, resting only on his own authority ( "Because I forbid it!"), Be prepared for the fact that the child will not convinced. Most likely it will remember your negative emotions and try to hide from you their subsequent swearing. However, he hardly refuse it.
• Well, apply adequate measures means - to solve the problem of bad language in its infancy. While preserving normal child - parent relationship, full of love and trust.

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parent tactics

1. Remove the swear words from his own lexicon.
2. The atmosphere of love, care and understanding reduces the risk of using profanity to a minimum.
3. We are showing interest kid life. Sometimes children use swearing with a single purpose - to attract the attention of indifferent parents.
4. If you hear a mat of a small child (up to three years), try to miss the words "deaf ears". Most likely - a linguistic test, which is not secured. And too much attention to it in this case is completely useless.
5. If you hear a mat from a child 3-6 years, should show their surprise happening. Tell your child that it is very these words do not go. Explain why you do not want to hear these words, give examples of relatives or famous people who do not like mat.
6. If the kid he asked you about the importance of obscene words, try not to show embarrassment, not irritated, not to swear, but to explain.
7. If you seriously puzzled by the problem of weaning the baby from the warlike vocabulary, try to replace them with "sharp" words on the ridiculous, but the standard language. Sometimes guys "bring" obscene poems, laugh at them, in this case, you can come up with no less absurd fun, but a decent rhyme. And to convince his own behavior, the new version is much more clever!
8. If a child shows a mat during emotional stress, that is, he screams, cries, kicks and throws things, try not to reduce the emphasis on his behavior and language. The surest now - is to remove the arisen state, with a new focus. Work perfectly unexpected and inappropriate questions literally knocked out of the rut attention; cartoons; output to the street; offer to play / take a shower / run with errands / call dad / prepare a surprise, and so on.

Right speech

If you are afraid to become obsessive mom ever gets better speech baby, try softer methods. Good literature, including audio books, playing different kinds of creativity, attention to environmental toddler companies bring their rich fruit. The child is very receptive to everything new, bright, exciting - so give him a world full of excitement! Then absurdities, foolish and ill simply no place.

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