For a long time, many have been interested in the question: is there friendship between a man and a woman. Someone claims that yes, proving this by many years of friendship with a person. Someone is sure that even during these years, one of the two absolutely warms within himself the hope that friendships will develop into something more. But today we are talking about friendship between former spouses. Does it exist? After all, not only do many people not believe in friendship between a man and a woman, but are such friendly relations, if in the past "friends" were in an intimate relationship, lived together, raised common children.
It happens that after the couple broke up, they continue to communicate, because one of the two still has feelings for the former soulmate, and hopes for a reunion. Someone is really brought together by common children, and maybe common property, business.
And here is the situation of Sergei, who does not know what to do and what to do. He is divorced, but takes an active part in raising his three children from his ex-wife. Recently, he was given a very decent bonus at work, and Sergey decided to give it all to his ex-wife. Moreover, the school will start very soon, and now it will take a lot of money to gather three schoolchildren at once.
But the fact is that recently Sergei had a girlfriend. And she does not really like the close communication of her lover with her ex-wife. Sergei explains that he does this solely for the well-being of the children, but his girlfriend is sure that such communication will certainly lead to the reunion of the former.
Sergey is just confused. He is not going to build a relationship with his ex-wife again, he is madly in love with his children, and is ready for them for everything, but he also loves his girlfriend very much, and does not know how to find a compromise in this situation. After all, Sergei's beloved has not been talking to him for several days.
I think you need to let the girl cool down first. It is clear that she is jealous, she cannot yet come to terms with the situation, but perhaps with time, she will understand everything. Secondly, Sergey will have to prove his love for the girl, and explain that he does not love his ex-wife. Thirdly, Sergey needs to talk to his girlfriend so that she can say what exactly she does not like, why, and what she is afraid of. Fourthly, Sergey should introduce his current girlfriend to children, then she will understand that he has such strong feelings for her that he even decided to bring her closer to his offspring.
Of course, if the couple has a separate budget, then Sergey himself has the right to decide what to do with his bonus. It is his legitimate choice to spend his money where he wants. If this is the only question, then it is rather strange that Sergey's new girlfriend presents him with some conditions.
And the point here is not even in the friendship between the former spouses. They communicate and keep in touch for the sake of children, so that they feel the love and care of both parents.
If the current relationship is very important for Sergey, but the dispute cannot be resolved, then you should contact a specialist, and there is nothing to be ashamed of. Sometimes you just need to go through therapy to find a compromise solution to the situation and build relationships.
What do you think? Is Sergei's girlfriend really right, and his too close relationship with his ex-wife, is this the birth of a new romance? Can ex-spouses be friends, even for the sake of children? And does Sergey want to do the right thing by spending a large amount not on new relationships, but on helping his children?
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