Probably, in many countries it is so customary that young people, after marriage, begin to live with their father-in-law and mother-in-law or with their fathers-in-law. I never understood this, and I think, since you have decided to make your own nest, then you should do it away from the parental nest.
What could be the reasons why young people live with their parents? The very first thing that comes to mind is that they do not have their own housing. But we must understand that marriage is primarily a responsibility, and you need to take care of your own housing. At worst, remove one.
Sometimes the relationship between parents and children is so close and strong that the younger ones can't tear themselves away from the older ones. But no one forces you to forget your father and mother, and stop seeing them! You can call up at least every day, come to visit on the weekends, get together for the holidays. But why live together?
By the way, it doesn't matter who has a couple living with the wife's parents or the husband's parents. In any case, this is an indicator of some kind of insolvency and irresponsibility of the groom. If it is so difficult for him to tear himself away from his mother's skirt, then what kind of marriage is he, what children are he?
It is necessary to discuss the issue of housing even before the wedding. Living with parents is a very bad idea. Not even in one entrance, not even on the same street!
I also do not understand why young people do not go on vacation themselves, but certainly take all their relatives with them! Why invite relatives to spend the night in your house? Why report everything that happens in the new family to the father and mother?
Don't you think that this is some kind of immaturity? Why then run to the registry office, immature and irresponsible people are not able to build a strong marriage!
And also, tell me, do young people really not want romance, solitude? After all, all this will quickly fade away if you continue to live in the parental nest!
If you have nowhere to live, then go, work, and rent an apartment! How about you? Did you think all your life to sit on your mother's and father's neck? And do not try to give birth to children if you cannot go somewhere on your own, buy something, and express your opinion! If there is no normal material base, if the wind is in your head, if you are still sitting under the overprotection of your parents, then sit further!
You know, it also happens that people start dating back in their school years, together for many years, but live with their parents. This is the usual high school romance, the couple never thought about separating from their parents, and is unlikely to think about it. Here, of course, a lot also depends on the parents, they had to give an ultimatum, once you get married - go and live separately, and if you don’t want to move out - no marriage for you.
Otherwise, they will give birth to children, throw them at their grandparents, but they need it! No, I think that it is necessary to move away from your parents if you have already decided to become someone's spouse, and even more so if you are going to have children.
A person will never become independent, responsible, independent if he is dependent on his father or mother. Never! No matter what anyone says. We always remain children while our parents are alive, but we also always remain weak-willed as long as we continue to live with them.
It's interesting to hear from you. What do you think about this? Maybe some of those who read this article also live with their parents, while being legally married? Explain why? Have you ever wanted to build your own nest?
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