We all know what betrayal is because we have experienced it many times. Usually, when they talk about the betrayal of friends, colleagues, relatives, it becomes painful, insulting, in general, a flurry of emotions. As for betraying oneself, it does not seem to be something terrible. And in general, it happens quietly and imperceptibly, but the consequences can then be very painful.
Imagine. Your body asks for treatment, care, rest, but you do not give it to it. You always have something more important to do. So why are you surprised later when something stops working?
Or your feelings. They signal to you that you don't feel well with a certain person, that you need to change your life, that you need to move in a different direction. And you again ignore everything, because “it is necessary”, “must”, “it is so right”. Someday you will realize that you had to listen to yourself, but it will be too late.
This is self betrayal. We constantly crush ourselves with some kind of attitudes, fears, prohibitions. We are afraid of being misunderstood, we are afraid of loneliness, we are afraid that we will be judged, we are afraid to annoy someone or even poison life. We are afraid of betraying others, but we are not afraid of ourselves. Yes, betrayal can even be in the fact that we build ourselves out of who we are not, thereby denying our essence. We prefer to be perfect rather than alive.
And so it happens every day, we do not listen to ourselves, do not hear our needs and desires, as a result, we experience dissatisfaction with our own lives, with ourselves.
Why do others decide for us? Why do we agree to what we do not want, if only to think well of us? Why do we want to be good to those who wipe their feet on us? How much can you betray yourself?
If you suddenly realize that you have some difficulties in work, in communication, in your personal life, think about whether you have betrayed yourself in some way? If betrayed, then why? Now you are paying the price, but is it really worth the price?
I think a person is unhappy for only one reason - because he betrays himself. Ignores sips in the region of the heart, continuing to smoke and gets a heart attack. Continues to live with an unloved person, gets betrayed. He continues to work where he does not like, receives disrespect from colleagues, and money flows through his fingers. Continues to smile at the one he hates, gets gossip behind his back.
Understand, you can’t pretend, you can’t be insincere with others and with yourself. You do not have to do everything right, because it is not enough to do it right, you must also be ready for it. The fact that you are now sacrificing yourself for the sake of something, stepping over yourself, will not give you happiness, even if you reach your goal.
Whatever the circumstances in life, no matter who hurts you, no matter who betrays you, no matter how hard it is, once and for all make it a habit to be only with those who need you, to do what you like, do not climb into someone else's life if you are not called, do not help if you are not asked, do not believe if you have already been deceived, do not wait for something from there, from where nothing has ever been came! Do not keep those who run away from you, do not impose yourself on anyone if you are not loved. Don't betray yourself. You are the most precious person for yourself! The way you love yourself, no one on the planet will love you!
Now, it may be difficult for you to realize the truth of these words, but I believe that someday you will understand everything!
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