All parents make at least some of these mistakes.
We talk about wrong actions that cannot be repeated.
1. Crowds of relatives
In the first month after birth, the child is very sensitive to all infections and irritants. Yes, it is partially protected by maternal immunity, but it is not a panacea and not a 100% guarantee of health.
It is understandable that relatives want to come and see the baby, but this should not be massive and loud. It is enough that for the first couple of months only the closest ones visit him - grandparents, and in the first month it is even worth putting on protective masks so as not to transmit any virus to the child.
And such precautions, believe me, are not superfluous. Even a simple SARS in a baby can easily develop into pneumonia, and the last thing you want after the hospital is to go back to the hospital and treat the newborn with antibiotics.
2. Overheating and hypothermia of the child
More often, of course, we are talking about overheating, because at any air temperature they try to wrap a newborn in a suit, hat and socks. But it’s worth turning on the logic and understanding that at +18 and above he definitely doesn’t need a hat (you don’t need it?), And at +22 you can safely undress to a diaper.
Do not be afraid of cool hands and feet - all children have them, this is normal, because the child's heat transfer is just being established. But no, he's not cold.
At the same time, you should not walk with a stroller in hot weather under the open sun. From the sun's rays, the baby can get burned, and if the stroller is closed with something, then severe overheating and lack of fresh air. From 11 to 16 it is better to walk as much as possible in the shade and the air can flow freely to the child.3. word distortion
The baby does not yet know how to speak, but remembers combinations of sounds - that is, words. And if you constantly lisp and distort your speech, then the child does not learn the usual normal words. The simpler and more ordinary you speak to him, the faster he will perceive and repeat just normal and ordinary speech.
Of course, you can’t do without lisping at all - after all, children are so cute. However, this should not be the basis of your communication even with the smallest baby.
4. Blind repetition of the experience of the elders
Young parents often fall into confusion after the appearance of the baby, even if before that they read smart books and "prepared" in every possible way. And here grandmothers come to the rescue - with their experience and advice. And, of course, with their experience and authority, they "crush" any attempts of young mothers and fathers to raise a child in their own way.
But it is important to remember that you cannot blindly follow the advice on the development, upbringing, nutrition, health of the baby, which were relevant for our mothers and grandmothers several decades ago.
Pediatrics and pedagogy have stepped forward, the whole world has stepped forward - and now it knows for sure that a woman does not need to express her breasts to the last drop after each feeding. And you can feed off the clock. And bathe at 30 degrees. And wear on the handles as much as you need, not allowing you to "cry".In general, it is important to quickly recover from the shock that you have become parents, turn on independence and logic, connect all previously acquired knowledge (and continue to receive new ones) and seek the advice of the older generation only in extreme case.
5. Anxiety
It is difficult to remain calm when you have a whole new person in front of you, for whose life, health and safety you are responsible 24/7 for the next 18 years. Everything is incomprehensible, everything new is disturbing, unusual, and life has been turned upside down.
But the child perfectly captures this state of the parents - and he becomes anxious, whiny, capricious. And the more you pass it to each other with shaking hands, panicking why he is crying, the more he will cry, because he receives a charge of nervousness from you, and not calmness and confidence.
First, get your breath right. If you breathe calmly, evenly, deeply, then your pulse slows down, the baby quickly takes over, slows down his breathing and calms down. Talk to him confidently, don't make erratic movements - and definitely don't quarrel with each other and don't raise your voice.
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