Unfortunately, you can't trust anyone these days, not even your own children. And the story of my neighbor confirms this.
Lydia lives in our house, right above us. She used to live next door with her son. It was about 10 years ago, and then she was about 50. Lydia was a divorced woman, she met a pleasant-looking pensioner Alexei, and they decided to get together, having moved to our entrance, to him. It was decided to rent an apartment to Lydia, it was a good addition to the woman's salary.
Lydia's son went to study far away in another city. And then he got used to it so much that he stayed forever. His work was interesting, by profession, of course, he did not receive millions, but for a living, and to pay for a rented apartment, he had enough.
Lydia did not leave her son regularly, she regularly sent him good parcels, and on holidays she sent money for 10 thousand rubles. She didn't have much to spend on. Life was calm, measured, and then the son suddenly announced that he was going to get married.
“Mom, it’s such a thing, Alenka has her own odnushka, but I won’t live in her apartment,” Lidia’s son called, “well, what happens, I’m like a bird. You have it, Alexey, I think you are at such an age that you won’t begin to converge and disperse, so you will live together. Maybe you'll sell your apartment and give me the money to expand?
Lydia did not know what to answer her son, but he called every day, and still did not stop talking about the apartment:
“Mom, come on, come on, come on, let’s do this.” I will simply invest in the expansion, and then we will issue the documents in shared ownership. You know I can't do it on my own, I need your help!
And Lydia kept thinking, on the one hand, she was not against helping her own son, on the other, she was losing a good income, and life was very unpredictable, relations with Alexei were not formalized, it is not known how life might turn out, what if he eventually writes it out and kick out.
Lydia talked to her common-law husband, who immediately said that he was against it. But the woman nevertheless went to meet her son, sold her apartment and gave all the money to him.
Then there was a wedding, the young people bought an apartment, they arranged everything as agreed. And they began to live as before. Over the past 10 years, the children invited Lydia only 3 times to visit them. Yes, and the woman herself is very expensive to fly to visit her son. And he still expects parcels and money from his mother, and directly declares this to her. Lydia saves as much as she can from her pension in order to send at least something to her children.
The only thing that pleases her is that her son regularly sends her photos and videos of her granddaughter through the social network. And after that, Lydia is ready to send the last thing to the children for her beloved baby.
All Lydia's acquaintances unanimously say that it is her son who should help her, and not she him. And the woman becomes so ashamed. She even bought herself a new good phone, and told everyone that her son had given it. But Aleksey let someone know that this was all not true, which made Lydia even more upset.
And for the last month, Lydia and Alexei have started some quarrels, the relationship is already bursting at the seams. Everything was aggravated by the fact that his children wanted dad to sell the apartment and divide the money between his son and daughter. In return, the son promises to take his father to live with him, but only without his common-law wife. Who needs someone else's aunt?
Alexei thought, and Lydia was crying. Her son and daughter-in-law immediately made it clear that they would not take her to their place. And, if now her common-law husband sells the apartment and leaves, she generally runs the risk of remaining on the street, which no one needs.
That's how it happens. Therefore, whatever your love for children, you always need to have your own corner. Let not big, but still... Unfortunately, now you can not trust anyone, even children ...
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