Before, I thought it didn't matter who the person was. He can be a deceiver, a thief, lead an unhealthy lifestyle. I thought that everything comes from childhood, that everything is due to upbringing, or that he was simply destined to go through his trials in order to learn a lesson.
But at one point I suddenly realized that yes, people can have some flaws, but next to me there should be those who have the same level of values as me. I want to be around people for whom such words as conscience, honesty, dignity are of great importance.
It is believed that these qualities can not be combined with femininity. We, women, especially, are constantly busy in everyday life, and rarely will anyone work on the listed characteristics, they do not develop femininity, but, on the contrary, only interfere. But it is wrong to think so. People must have the same values, only then the relationship will be long-term and of high quality.
It is difficult for me to communicate with men who cannot even explain what it means for them to keep their word or honor. And a person for whom conscience is when you simply do not lie causes great concern. I think conscience is something much more. And, when a person is not able to explain all these categories, and is also not able to be responsible for his actions, then what is the point for me to communicate with him?
I do not understand the statements of psychologists that can justify absolutely any negative human behavior. Angry, irresponsible, with an immoral lifestyle? Everything is clear, he is just an unloved child in the family, he had toxic parents, etc. Not! He's just really mean and irresponsible. Childhood is childhood, and when you become an adult, you need to educate yourself on your own, and develop the ability to be responsible for your actions.
But it is much easier to find an excuse, to throw off your behavior on someone. Figure out why you hurt others. So to speak, get rid of it. But every person has a brain, and it is in order to think and evaluate their behavior, to analyze.
So, even if something there pushes a person to theft or other negative actions, he can stop for a minute and think about what he can do to someone badly. If a person is accustomed to getting money, pleasure at absolutely any cost, then is he deserved to be called a person? He is an ordinary animal, moving only by his instincts.
A person cannot be born immediately and be honest, keep his word, understand what dignity is. These values are formed in him over time, but do not depend on higher education, high position or mind. These values are formed only as a result of hard work on oneself. And if a person does not want to work on himself, why should I waste my time on him and prove something to him?
I believe that such people, accustomed to live as they want, have no place in my life. And I came to this realization only over the years, repeatedly faced with human cruelty. I will never build relationships with those who are able to hurt others just to make themselves feel good. Such people will suppress, and may even completely destroy.
I am happy that now I am surrounded by people with similar life values. And let the rest dig in their own dirt, blaming everything and everyone around, and not recognizing that they are turning into animals.
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