There is a great quote from Albert Einstein - “The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results."), which means - "The biggest stupidity is to do Same most and hope for a different result».
If you are now in a dead end and it seems to you that your life is a repeating cycle of negative scenarios, then this is just the case when you unconsciously repeat the same actions and they, of course, lead to the same result.
If we analyze the life of a person who is constantly faced with failures, we will find those actions that in this scenario lead and with the right approach, it will be possible to break this vicious circle and make sure that the next cycle is completed positively.
Here are some examples:
- The woman who married for the second time, at first everything was fine, but after 5 years she gets the same man, whom she divorced before this marriage. This suggests that her behavior has not changed and she unwittingly adjusts the person to her usual model. To get out of this scenario, you need to understand what you are doing in order for your companion to become like this. Perhaps you take a model of behavior from your family.
- Or a man who has already changed jobs 10 times, but every time he is disappointed, swears with colleagues, falls into despondency, quits and again looks for another job, but still cannot find his place in the sun. Perhaps, when choosing a job, he is guided not by his desires, but by money or a team, and after a while he realizes that this is not what he needs. Or his communication skills are such that people can't relate to him otherwise.
- A girl who constantly chooses to be her companions men who betray her or treat her disrespectfully. At first it may seem that this person is not the same as the previous ones, but after a while he becomes the same. Unconsciously, the girl chooses men for herself who will do bad things to her, while building relationships in parallel, she behaves in such a way that the man has no choice but to follow her unconscious desire to do with her bad. And he does and the girl repeats this cycle again.
There are a thousand examples. We are all at the mercy of our unconscious behavioral reactions and life script. The essence is the same - we ourselves are the creators of our happiness, and in order to get out of the vicious circle, it is necessary to change the vector actions, act differently, try new things and change your behavior, look at the result and again change.
Disappointment is always painful and it seems that it will not get better. But it hurts even more to realize that you have not tried to change your life.
Do not let things happen to you, there is always a chance to change your life and become happy.
