I know that it is very hard to take and let go of those who were a part of your life, to whom you gave your care and your love, those who became a part of your life. In particular, it is so hard in some difficult moments to want a person who is no longer around to go through it all with you, support, help, lend a shoulder, just be! I understand you perfectly. You are not alone, we are many. I also know what it is: to continue to live after a person. Without him. You are still the same, you still have the same life, but he is not around.
It hurts a lot, I understand, and it's very hard. But understand that you cannot constantly dwell on those people who have left, you need to stop holding hope inside yourself that everything will return to its place. No, nothing can be changed, you have to let go and learn to live on. Appreciate yourself! After all, if a person wants to be in your life, he will be there, he will never leave. He will make every effort to stay with you, to share both sorrows and joys, right? And if not, then let everything be as it will be!
Just don't get angry and hate those who left! You don’t need to remember that they did bad things to you, remember only the good, with warmth in your heart, with a smile, without tormenting yourself with longing. No need to destroy those people in your head, otherwise it really will turn into hatred. Keep loving them, but let go, don't get attached. Living next to them has become an experience for you, you must learn the lessons and move on in life. As soon as memories of them pop up in your head, try to wish them only the best. You can miss them, but not want them to come back to you. No need!
If the people who were in your life left, then they were simply not ready to love you and appreciate you, they were not ready to be with you. So it's time to stop wanting to get them back. And you don't have to ask them about it. You can't make a person love you, so don't dream about it. Let it be better for those who did not stay nearby to sort themselves out. Let them grow on their life path, of which you are not a part. Start appreciating those who are with you. While you mourn the departed, you lose those who are ready to do anything for you.
Focus on those who are close to you, start paying attention to them, appreciate and love them. It is they who respect you, it is for them that you are dear. They know how to reciprocate your love for them, they give you the strength to live on, breathe, develop. Stop taking them for granted, do not lose touch with them, chasing those who do not put you in anything.
Think again, and do not waste your strength, energy and time thinking about how to return those who do not want to be near you. Because you can lose a lot of beauty, allowing your past to interfere with your normal existence in the present. We often do not realize the importance of people who are always there in serious moments, we do not appreciate those who share sorrows and joys with us, we take their attention, love, help as a matter of course.
You just have to take the experience out of communicating with people from the past, and not repeat your mistakes. But you should not close yourself in, open yourself to the world, fill the space inside yourself with those people who wish you well. The world didn't collapse because you had to say goodbye to someone. If they left, then either their mission near you ended, or they simply did not take your connection seriously.
Let go of the past and the people left in it, appreciate those who are nearby, otherwise you will lose them too.
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