All of us at least once, but we got into a situation where failure to comply with momentary desire of the child, the baby suddenly falls to the floor, screaming and kicking Sucitu. Talk to your child at this moment is not just impossible, and useless. He just can not hear. What to do?
To begin, let's deal with the concept of "hysteria." Often children aged 1 to 5 years in a short period of time get an incredible amount of information. That's just yesterday your baby is silent, and now chatters incessantly and directly whole sentences. In addition, throughout the day pipsqueak actively learns and often with all this information flow just can not cope. As a consequence, emotional breakdowns, which are expressed, including in hysterics.
Remarque: if a child's hysterical leads to physiological manifestations (baby pants from screaming, turning blue) - show the child neurologist immediately.
Why do children often turn it to hysteria, as a method of influence on the parents? From the very infancy of the child he expressed his dissatisfaction with the cry. Hungry - cry, call my mom! It's time to change a diaper - shout down - of course, cry. Of course, becoming older, kid, wanting the fastest possible execution of his desire, "reflex" refers to a proven method - cry. In this case, expect that such behavior "will pass by itself" makes no sense. Not only do not work but only get worse. Impunity for acts of child show him that you can continue in the same spirit. Therefore, parents should try to literally from childhood to teach your baby to control his emotions, and the desire to express appropriate ways.
How to prevent childhood tantrum?
- To begin, calm yourself. Take a deep breath and focus on the long run to ten in reverse order. You absolutely need to keep complete tranquility, because the screams in return, you will only aggravate the situation.
- Try to switch the attention of the child. Well, for example: a child is asking to buy exactly the machine, is rejected and starts hysteria. Your actions: "Oh, look what a bird flew! And what color her tail? "And then in a similar spirit.
- It is still possible to distract the baby, try to find a compromise - the kid wants the car, and you offer an option: "We'll buy it, but then, when my mother would take with a coin." Try to time when to offer a compromise, less focus on the cause of the conflict.
- Yet, at that moment, when all is quiet and calm, discuss with the child, that it is possible to do it during tantrums and don'ts. For example, to fall to the floor as possible, but the bite, throw and hit everything around you can not. For non-observance of the rules offer a punishment. I emphasize: the punishment is not for the very fit, and for non-compliance.
What if the hysterical yet begun?
- Go away to another room (if you are already at home). Often, when a child rolls his tantrum, he needs an audience. As soon as he realizes that one of his concerts is watching, hysteria stops by itself. Of course, completely leave the child unattended impossible. Get out so that the baby did not see you watching him from the other room. After he calmed down, calmly discuss why it is now so behaved?
- Happens, children's "exemplary performances of" arranged for the particular family member, because the child knows exactly what this person (eg mother) hysteria It will work. Try to involve the Pope restore calm. Men tend to be less affected and quickly solve problems with the "guest".
- Another way to stop the tantrum: try to convey your message to the kid that when he cries and cries, you can not understand their requirements and requests. And if the child is able to calm down (and it is, in fact, is an end in itself), it is possible to meet his request. For example, a child with the help of hysteria requires the machine. Quietly ask him to calm down and clearly explain its request. After the baby has calmed down, agree: you buy a car, if it is not as big as he asks, or you buy a car, but instead he will perform some duty to his home. Etc.
Thus, you avoid tantrums and performing child demands, insist on its version - show that you are important and do not go on about the baby.
Sometimes, rolling tantrum kid just wants your attention. In this case, hug him, in spite of the external resistance, stroke, and tell me how much you love him, how important it is and how you are happy for you that your child - it was he. The main thing in these moments - tactile contact with the baby.
If you throw a tantrum child refuses your attention, for example, requires a dad - call me. Maybe the kid in this situation it is necessary to comfort the pope.
Why does he cry?
Approximately three years, the child begins to show a desire to do something himself. Tantrums may be connected with the fact that you do not give him to show independence. For example, you clean up the house, and the baby persistently offers to help. It comes to the scandal. You, instead, to continue to "fight" with him, allow him to finally wash the floors. All long crawl mop it will not be the same, but the house did not disturb the peace.
Another interesting situation. You are trying to put the child on the street, and he categorically, with the scandal, he refuses. In this case, give him the illusion of choice: the baby cries and you calmly ask, "So you will dress pants or jeans? "The kid will stop the scandal and ponder over the choice, and choosing clothes, even allowed himself wear. This option is suitable and food issues, walking places, etc.
Ways out of difficult situations related to the hysteria of the child, in fact - a lot. At the same time, parents should try not to bring it up, but if it really happened, as much as possible to remain calm, no matter how difficult it was at that moment. Never scold the child, especially at a time when he discredits you. Let the kid will remember: in any situation, your balance is not disturbed by anything and eventually he just realizes that this number as the hysterics with his parents just do not pass. I wish you happiness and understanding!
