There are so many women around who are divorced and with a child from their first marriage, who are remarrying, building a family. Men are divided on this point. Someone calls such women - a divorcee with a trailer, but someone is calm. In addition, there are pluses in the fact that the second half already has a child. For example, this is suitable for those men who did not plan to have their own children, and then, more often In total, at the time of the new relationship, the child is far from breastfeeding, which means that the house will be more or less quiet.
But for some reason the reverse situation is forgotten. If the couple broke up on a friendly note, and the mother allows the father to communicate with the children, it turns out that the man becomes, as it were, also with a trailer.
And not all women are happy with that. Now I will tell the story of my friend, who is already on the verge of rabies, and with one foot in the registry office, is filing for divorce.
“When my husband and I met, I knew perfectly well that he was divorced, and he had a son with his ex. Clouded by my feelings, somehow I did not attach any serious importance to the presence of a son of my beloved. In addition, the boy was not present at all in our life at first, we enjoyed our relationship and spent a lot of time together. The ex-wife of my husband herself was engaged in raising their son, she did not meddle with us. And then we got married, and how it broke through! Apparently, she was jealous of the former for me, and often began to throw her son to us.
Well, of course, I understood everything, and in no case did I interfere with the communication of father and son. I think that children should not suffer from the fact that their parents divorced, they are not to blame for this. But over time, the frequency of the boy's visits to our house increased. And very soon the kid began to often stay with us overnight, living with us for several days. I am categorically against such communication, I do not need it! Let them condemn me, but I don’t want any relationship with this child at all. He's nobody to me, I don't want him!
The main reason that I have a dislike for this boy is that he completely looks like his mother. This annoys me a lot. It is interesting that he does not even look like my husband in the slightest. He has the appearance of his mother, and demeanor, and intonation. As soon as my husband takes his son to us again, I try to withdraw myself. Let them communicate, but I don’t need such guests. And I'm tired of hearing from the boy that his mother cooks tastier, looks prettier and earns more. Go to her then, why are you rubbing here?
The husband, of course, is offended. But I do not like how he began to directly impose his son on me. He is sure that if I loved him, then my son should love him. But, firstly, I was not going to give birth to my own yet, I wanted to live for myself. Secondly, he is a stranger to me, I don’t want to play with him and watch cartoons.
I have already come to terms with the fact that the boy constantly sticks out with us, but I treat him like furniture, I just pass by and that's it. And don't force me to talk to him. I have a feeling that with his appearance in the house all my comfort and my freedom disappears. I’m not interested, I don’t want to constantly put on a fake smile on my face and pretend that I like it. This is not true. I will never interfere with communication between father and son, but I think that making claims against me is generally wrong and stupid. I don't owe anyone anything.
I decided that if my husband finally does not leave me alone, I will divorce him!”
That's how it happens! How do you feel about this situation? Should a woman love her husband's son? Or is the man making the mistake of leaving the boy to live in his house with his new wife?
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