Husband and wife are one. I don’t see any point in getting married, then to swear, change, ruffle each other’s nerves. No, for me, if people are married, it means that they are a single organism, which means that they must be faithful to each other and respect each other too.
Of course, it's easier said than done. Sometimes it is respect for lovers that is given very hard. According to psychologists, first of all, problems in the family come, due to the fact that parents put children first, and not spouses. And this is not true. It is especially important for a woman to regard her husband as more important than her child. Let's figure out why.
A woman's number one child
Many women are convinced that it is the child for them that is the most important person in life. They steadfastly adhere to this opinion, and do not even want to listen to anything else. But psychologists say otherwise. They are sure that when a woman puts the baby in charge, she, on the contrary, destroys the family. When the husband is on the sidelines, this makes unbearable and bad conditions for the development and upbringing of the baby.
But for a husband, the main person is his wife! So why is the husband not of such importance to the wife?
Family well-being
When you build a relationship with a partner, your joint efforts are important, and in building a family, the efforts of both spouses are needed. A family is formed through the interaction of a wife and husband, and when a wife interacts only with a child, exclusively relations appear - “mother-child”. And dad, like the third wheel. And will the family gain prosperity and become happy if dad does not receive his portion of love and care? Not!
Happy parents - happy children. In those families where mom and dad respect each other, love, devote time to each other, children grow up in comfort, feeling confident and protected.
An example for children
Pathological maternal love completely clips the wings of children. When dad is on the sidelines for mom, when he is practically not involved in raising children, the family becomes unhappy. But, if you want your child to be happy, meet the same happy person and create a happy family, you must set an example for him. And the example comes from the right relationship of his parents. If your children live in comfort, love, see how their parents take care of each other, then they will then be able to create a harmonious family, and your grandchildren will also grow up in a warm and cozy atmosphere.
happy old age
No matter how strongly you are attached to your children, one day they will fly away from the family nest, go to study, fulfill themselves, build their relationships. And you and your husband will stay together. And then those parents who were focused on each other will endure it less painfully, they will have a second wind, and their old age will be happy, rich and bright.
But, if your husband is always on the sidelines for you, you will fall into a stupor, a lot of problems and disputes will appear between you, and you will understand that you have nothing in common at all. And then, in order not to wither at all, you will begin to interfere in the lives of already grown children, you will go to them, call them, preventing them from fully developing and living in general. But the children will already have their own lives, you will begin to take offense at them, say that they are ungrateful, that you are everything to them, and they... But who is to blame for this? That's right, you!
Of course, psychologists do not urge parents to stop taking care of their children altogether, throw them off to grandparents, and just enjoy life with their spouse. No, that won't work either. Children will always need the care, love and support of mom and dad. It's about learning how to set your priorities right.
Understand, becoming a mother, you do not cease to be a spouse. Try to separate these roles so that everyone in your family is happy. Harmony in the family between husband and wife is the key to a happy childhood for your child!
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