Sometimes a person sincerely wants to find a soul mate, to build a strong alliance with her, but nothing works out for him. Everything is somehow wrong, not according to plan, a lot of disappointments and problems. But the point may be that it is not yet time for him to think about relationships.
Perhaps you also have this problem? Maybe you want to meet a man just to avoid loneliness, or maybe you need to solve some important problem. For some reason, many women think that in love they will find salvation, all problems will disappear, and life will certainly get better. But this approach is very wrong.
Signs You're Not Ready for a Relationship
You are an unhappy woman
To become happy with a man, you must first of all be happy, as an independent unit, i.e. alone. Life doesn't get bright when you meet someone, that's not how it works! Relationships cannot give us happiness, they can only supplement it. Therefore, you must be self-sufficient, have a job, friends, have your own interests and personal life.
Women who are obsessed with finding partners only alienate men. In addition, you should not think that with the advent of relationships, your life will become cloudless and calm, because a man may simply not live up to your expectations, and be not as perfect as you imagine it represented. First you need to learn how to be happy alone, and then start a relationship.
All of your previous relationships followed the same pattern.
And this is not because you chose the wrong ones, but because you yourself put yourself that way. If everything has always gone according to one scenario for you, it's time to sort yourself out. Now you are sure that you come across unsuccessful options, or that you are simply unlucky, but you do not in any way assume that you yourself are doing something wrong. But, everything is very simple, if you want the world around you to change, so that relations with people are not the same, you first need to start changing yourself.
Do you still remember your ex?
This is a very common problem for women. They want to build a relationship with a new man, but they still remember the former. They compare, if they still love, then they are looking for a similar appearance, character, behavior, if they hate, then they try to find something completely different. And someone plunges into a relationship just to forget, well, knock out a "wedge with a wedge."
And you just need to say goodbye to the past, it may take a lot of time, pain, suffering, memories will torment you, emotions will overwhelm you. It needs to be experienced, and not immersed in a new relationship with your head.
You built walls around you
If you are closed emotionally, then life will throw you the same closed people. But is it possible that if two such "plugged" people meet, they will get a relationship? Perhaps you are still in pain after a previous relationship, and it’s scary to open your heart again, it’s hard to trust, you don’t want to be a naive fool. But this way you just make yourself an “iron lady” and you definitely won’t be able to build a normal relationship.
You don't love yourself at all
You want a relationship so much that you are ready to pretend, just to please someone. You are ready to be anyone, and completely lose yourself, giving a damn about your views and beliefs. It is clear that we want to seem better to people, to show our virtues, but we need to show real ones, not fictional ones.
If you're giving up on yourself just to get romance and love, then it's time for you to stop. Focus on yourself, take care of yourself, until you love yourself, no one will love you! No need to put on a mask, because someday it will fly off you anyway, you won’t be able to pretend all the time.
You are not yet ready for a relationship, if some of the words above are about you! But do not despair, everything can be fixed. Work on yourself to come to a relationship happy, confident and strong!
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