I guess I’m misbehaving myself, but I think there are actually a lot of people like me. I have always been tormented by the question: why, the more you give to people, the more they try to suck out of us even more. Why are there so many consumers now, whom, God forbid, you refuse, they begin to make themselves a victim?
I had an old friend. We have been talking for more than 10 years, and my eyes have only recently been opened. We studied together, got married almost at the same time, and worked in similar areas. I always appreciated her very much, loved her, but decided for myself that we need to stop communicating. And all because of her consumer attitude towards me. How many times she called me, and then dropped me so that I called her at my own expense. And I called to listen to some empty chatter on the phone, lasting for hours.
If I needed to call her, it never occurred to me to do as she did. And our conversations all started with her “how are you”, and then I didn’t even have time to open my mouth, as she poured out a portion of her news on me. I endured for a long time, but now I just realized that I don’t want to communicate with a person who doesn’t care about me.
How many times she forgot to wish me a happy birthday, and once I didn’t do it in the morning, then I listened to complaints and reproaches. She remembers me when she needs something from me, I am very sorry that she has such a consumer attitude towards me, but I treat her with all my heart!
Once I was in a taxi. I get into the car and put my bags on the seat. Just left the clothing store, satisfied and happy. I look, the driver stared at me, and does not take his eyes off. I ask: "What happened?" And he told me: “I hope you don’t have any meat in your bag?” Later I explained that a woman had ordered a taxi before me. She climbed into the car, threw the bags on the seat (well, like me), only she had meat there, and it began to flow.
The driver asked the woman to put the bags on the floor, but she began to swear, like she is a consumer of the service, where she wants, she puts her bags there. It made me feel uncomfortable, what kind of people are they! How is that possible!
How many times in my life have I met men who spoke negatively about their "spouses". They were very dissatisfied with the behavior of their wives. Because the wives wanted something from them, they expressed their claims, and then, having achieved nothing, they simply left them. And what are they, the man is the head of the family! He simply consumes, he eats freshly brewed borscht, puts on clean socks, sleeps on ironed sheets. He is a consumer, a client, what will his wife do without him, where will she go with her borscht, to the homeless at the station?
And the children... Why do children have such a consumer attitude towards their parents. This is what I see now, in our time. Children have read psychologists about toxic parents, and they are sure that mom and dad owe them everything. They were born, wore knitted overalls, ate porridge, learned rhymes. They are victims, try to scold or punish for something - they didn’t understand me, you are obliged, you are toxic. Their parents then an apartment, a car, an education, but everything is not enough for them, they are used to pulling from them. And you give them little money, and you hug them a little, and you ask the wrong questions!
What's the answer? Those people who are used, from whom the “victims” continue to consume, begin to reproach themselves, feel guilty, look for the reasons for such an attitude towards themselves. And are they to blame? Why are there so many consumers around now?
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