It is still not clear why it happens that a seemingly good woman constantly chooses some rude, unsuitable for life together and, in general, no man as her partner. Yes, in most cases, after one unsuccessful marriage, ladies try to be smarter, and either choose loneliness altogether, or take their time with the choice, and eventually find a worthy option for themselves.
There is such loneliness, which is commonly called the crown of celibacy, but it happens that such a situation happens that a union is generally impossible. And the second option is not loneliness at all, it is much worse. So why do women sometimes choose such men for themselves, marriage with whom is generally impossible?
What's wrong with them? Why does the same woman come across, now married, now walking, and then one who seems to agree to marriage, but is in no hurry, and torments her with this? Or, in general, there is such an option that has problems that are completely incompatible with cohabitation with a woman, and even more so with marriage. The suffering that relationships with these men bring to women is much worse than the crown of celibacy.
But why does this happen anyway? After all, a woman makes her own choice, no one forces her to it! I share my opinion!
I believe that this happens only because the woman herself does not want to start a family. She has some kind of prohibition in her head, in her subconscious for personal happiness. She does not want to build family relationships on a subconscious level.
And it turns out that some kind of duality appears in it. She seems to want to be happy, she wants a man nearby, she wants to get married, have a family, children, but inside her there is a prohibition, an internal program that does not allow her to become happy after all. That is, she wants happiness, but in the depths of her soul she does not need anything.
So, she transfers this to her partner, it seems like it’s not she who doesn’t want to get married, it’s not she who doesn’t want to start a family, but this partner can’t or doesn’t want all this. This is shifting problems to a man, that's all!
Psychologists name a lot of reasons why this happens to a woman. They say that everything comes from a distant childhood, indicating the presence / absence of a father, a bad / too good father, etc. Well, everything is only the father's fault?
No, there are also philosophical reasons. It’s just that most often a woman who cannot arrange her personal life in any way has some kind of purpose in other areas of life. She just thinks that she has some other mission, which has nothing to do with serious relationships and the creation of a family. Most often, she simply does not know who she is, who she is, and stereotypes put pressure on her, and inner desires struggle with this, there is a feeling that you are in the wrong place. Everyone around asks: “Well, when will you start a family, children? When will you arrange your life?
But to arrange your life is not to find a husband and children, this is different. This is to understand who a person really is, what he really wants, what attracts him. And instead, the woman obediently grabs the first man she comes across in order to find her “female happiness”, nothing comes of it, she tries again, and this happens over and over again.
Until a woman understands herself, does not understand what she wants from this life, she will not become happy. Once she manages to do all this, she will be able to meet her love! She will meet her man! So there is no need to drive on men, women choose such for themselves, and then turn on suffering. And in fact, they don’t really want all this ...
What do you think about this?
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