Time flies quickly, our feelings change, events in life are forgotten. And sometimes we are not able to find time to survive the pain. Of course, it’s easier to go to a psychologist or psychiatrist so that specialists can help drown out the pain with drugs. But this is wrong! Pain must be overcome first.
It is easier for us to drink a sedative in order to quickly return to our usual track - to work, to family, to relationships, to life itself. It's like we're robots, emotionless cyborgs that just go ahead and don't worry about anything. To just live, not to think about anything, so that negative obsessive thoughts do not interfere with a calm, measured existence.
No matter what the pain is, we want to mitigate it as soon as possible. Because it’s hard, the wound bleeds, the integrity is broken, and that hurts. And this suggests that the body is alive, and it adequately responds to injury, illness, separation, death of loved ones, loss of work, etc.
I drank a pill and it doesn’t seem to hurt, I don’t feel anything, I can go further forward. Only pills and other feelings can muffle, not only pain, but also joy, pleasure, and the cat will cease to touch, and your favorite dish will cease to seem delicious.
No wound can heal instantly. If you cut your fingers, yes, muffle the pain by some means, but you will always see that there is a wound. And it will take some time for everything to heal, to heal. So it is with the wounds that are in the heart, in the soul. Of course, you can’t smear them with ointment and you can’t put a bandage on them. It's a little different here. Until all the restorative and protective mechanisms work, the wound will not heal. It is impossible to make the cells regenerate faster, and the blood to clot faster, so with the wounds of the soul, it takes time for them to heal!
To survive the pain, the human psyche needs to work out all the stages. No need to pick at the wound or hold everything on purpose, no need to speed up the recovery process. It is important to give the wound a chance to heal!
And jealousy hurts, and ignore, and dislike, and rude words, and unanswered messages hurt, and bad news, and parting, and loss. Everything hurts, sometimes very much, it seems unbearable, but you need to endure and endure.
The pain needs to be lived, and not to hide from it somewhere. You can’t suppress it with pills, alcohol, compensate with something, just not to feel it. The pain of the soul and heart is the same as any other disease. She needs to lie down with hot tea, with a handkerchief. We must try to accept the pain, to accept our painful condition. You need to learn to recognize what is happening to you and call what happened by its proper name. It is important to say to yourself: “I am in pain”, “I feel bad”, “I am jealous”, “I am angry”, “I am afraid”, etc. You can cry, suffer, get angry and pour out your anger, all this is even necessary!
If you are in pain, take the time to live your pain. Not healing her with pills, not drowning her in anything, and not switching to anything. You just need time to consciously live your pain.
Be patient, and then the psyche itself will be able to turn on defense mechanisms. Don't bother her, she'll be fine. At first, after you have been ill, there will be indifference, apathy, emptiness. And then you can calmly accept everything that happened. Later on, you will accept the situation itself and want to move forward. Of course, you would like to immediately move forward, not to take time, not to endure, but it is precisely such a phased move that is normal!
Understand that the action of any painkiller will definitely end, and the wound will start to hurt again. And it will stop hurting only when time passes and the wound heals!
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