If you know some features, then you can always distinguish a well-mannered guest from an ignorant one. It's not difficult, and now I'll tell you about some of the differences.
So, what distinguishes a well-mannered guest from an uncultured one?
First difference
When a person goes to visit, he must bring some gifts with him. But! It doesn't have to be ready meals. You can bring, say, something sweet, alcohol and even some delicacies. But if a person carries his own snack or salad, then this indicates disrespect for the hosts and the lack of culture of the guest.
The second difference
How touching they sometimes say about girls who are always late. We jokingly call such kapushkas, turtles and other slow creatures. And the truth is that they are completely ill-bred! Educated people are punctual!
The third difference
By the way, you should not come before the appointed time either, this will put the owners of the apartment in a rather awkward position. Maybe people were busy cooking and cleaning before the arrival of guests, and they wanted to spend the last half hour on putting themselves in order? And now they will have to be nervous and worried about their appearance.
Fourth difference
You can not arrange a "revision" of the apartment at a party. You should not go into those rooms in which you were not invited. This is complete ignorance. You were invited to one room, offered to sit on the sofa, and so, sit, and do not dangle around someone else's house. An exception is if the owners themselves want to show you something in other parts of the apartment, for example, repairs.
Fifth difference
An educated guest will never ask the birthday man what and who gave him, he will not ask to be shown what was presented to him. If he wants to, then he will definitely show everything, otherwise, it’s not worth climbing.
Sixth difference
An educated guest will not help the owner of the apartment in something, if he was not asked about it. He will not grab for cleaning, cooking, washing dishes.
Difference seventh
An educated guest will not lament that the room is cold and the heater should be turned on, or that the apartment is hot and it should be ventilated. And certainly he will not turn on the appliances himself and open the windows. He would rather delicately hint to the hostess that he is stuffy or cool.
Eighth difference
An educated guest, if he breaks something from the dishes, will not offer material assistance. He'll just apologize and help clean up the pieces.
The ninth difference
A well-mannered guest will not linger at a party until late. Of course, he likes to spend time with the owners of the apartment, he is fun and interesting. But he understands that people also need to relax, clean up after the guests, so he will not burden him with his presence.
Tenth difference
An educated guest will not be the very first to thump at the table and start the meal. He will wait for the invitation of the hosts, wait until all the guests are seated, and yet he will not immediately ask for spices, salt, sauces. Firstly, perhaps in the house they do not eat sauces and do not use all kinds of seasonings. Secondly, it will speak of disrespect for the culinary talents of the chef.
Eleventh difference
If a person is well-mannered, he will never touch the personal belongings of the owners without permission, for example, combs, cosmetics, medicines. And the ill-mannered one does not care what anyone thinks, he certainly needs to see everything and feel everything.
Twelfth difference
A well-mannered person will never discuss the menu that the owners provided him. But an ill-mannered person will begin to carefully consider the components of salads, will tell that he prepared something similar, but with more suitable components. In general, a cultured guest, if he is afraid of eating something wrong, or if he is interested in a dish, can always quietly ask the chef for the ingredients.
Here are the differences. It seems like such simple rules, but many do not follow them at all!
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