Not everyone is ready to admit that they have some resentment against their fathers. Moreover, many women are absolutely sure that they are not offended, they are not angry, and why can you be angry with dad at all? He gave everything he could, fed, watered, raised as best he could. Yes, not ideal, perhaps far from ideal, but generally normal, good, dear. Meanwhile, resentment may still be, it just settled somewhere in the depths of the soul, and slowly cripples the fate of the daughter ...
A father is the first and most important man in a daughter's life. It is in his image and likeness that a woman then chooses her husband, builds relationships, puts forward certain qualities that her partner should have. That's just an insult to dad can greatly affect an adult daughter, and, unfortunately, in a rather bad way.
Here a woman says that she has no resentment towards her father, and then it turns out that in childhood, dad practically did not pay his attention to her, did not participate in her life, did not help in solving problems. It seems that they lived under the same roof, it seems that dad was listed in the certificate, it seems that he provided, fed, clothed, gave good gifts, but still there is an insult. Only with the help of deep psychological practices can one, as it were, return to the past, resurrect the pain again, and realize that yes, there is resentment! It is important to do this, to raise what lies deep. It seems that it seems like, why stir it all up? But it is important to identify resentment in order to accept and let it go.
Therefore, dear women, I recommend that you read this information, even if you are sure that this is not about you. It just might be the other way around.
Attention Deficit Resentment
If the father spent very little time with his daughter, sometimes he did not pay attention to her at all, did not give her due the amount of care and love for her, she begins to feel unloved, and this then passes into an adult a life. A grown-up daughter will deliberately look for men for herself in order to compensate for the lack of father's attention to men. Here and early love, and meetings with guys, and early pregnancies.
This behavior suggests that deep in the subconscious, the daughter wants to prove to everyone around, including her father, that there is something to love her for. That she is worthy of the attention of men, even though she herself does not believe in it.
This is a real psychological trauma, and it will make a woman afraid of loneliness, so she will cling to everyone, just not to be left alone. And what is female happiness? And that's how you can get out of all this if you forgive your father!
Resentment that the father was cruel to his daughter
Yes, dads are different, and there are a lot of families in which fathers are tyrants. If dad behaves cruelly with his daughter, son, mother, this will definitely be postponed by his daughter, and she will harbor a grudge. And what is the result?
And as a result, the already grown daughter will begin to look for a man who will be the complete opposite of her father. But, unfortunately, he will still stumble and start relationships with cruel men.
And all because initially it was her father who was her first man. Even without wanting it, she will subconsciously begin to reach out to people like dad. It will only get worse over the years. And, as you already understood, only the forgiveness of the father can help here.
Resentment that the father restricted the freedom of his daughter
Well, or you can talk about hyper-custody on the part of the father. This has a very negative effect on my daughter's life. At first, she seeks to escape from the hands of her father as soon as possible, to free herself, and then she will not want to build relationships with anyone, because she will be afraid of hyper-custody.
Perhaps it is good when a woman strives for freedom and independence, but will she find female happiness? Unlikely! Therefore, until she can forgive her father, her life will not improve.
As you can see, all 3 roads, all 3 offenses lead to forgiveness. That is, this is the solution to the problem. And it's up to you to decide whether to carry this burden further in life or to free yourself and become happy!
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