No one can guess in advance where the path of life will lead. There are no recipes for happiness and prosperity. You make the rules for yourself, because this is your life. But, of course, there are general things, tips that can help everyone, make life a little easier. Especially when you're faced with making a decision when you're in an uncomfortable situation.
Don't jump to conclusions
Basically, get it out of your head. Never, under any circumstances, jump to conclusions. Otherwise, you will think that you already know what will happen next, and you will act inattentively, relying on your very decision. Don't hurry, where are you in a hurry?
Less drama
Control yourself. From the fact that you explode out of the blue because of some small failure, something will change? No need to inflate the evil of a universal scale because of some trifle! And don't make it a habit. Sometimes our worries have no basis at all, so why all this drama? Do you want to be noticed? Well, they will notice you, but they will consider you a fool!
No need to make up the rules
All these “shoulds”, “shoulds”, “needs” of yours are only in your head, it’s all useless. Because of these rules, you begin to feel guilty and nervous, you fill your head with some kind of order and useless restrictions. And, if you start throwing these rules on others, then you become like a self-confident whiner!
Less Restrictions
Restrictions breed criticism and negativity. When a person tries to squeeze into some kind of limitations, he stops seeing their true meaning, he limits his own thinking to the point of uselessness.
You don't have to be a perfectionist
While you're looking for the super perfect partner, the perfect job, the perfect company to hang out with, etc., your life goes by. You will keep looking for all this, so everything will seem to you not like that, not good enough for you. Perfectionism is a real disease that prevents a person from enjoying life. And he will always send you in search of what may not exist.
No need to generalize
If you have had one, two, three failures, this does not mean that you are a loser and you have a black streak in life. If luck smiled at you once, this does not mean that you are a real genius and lucky. Things are what they are, and there is no need for generalizations.
Don't take everything to heart
More often people take it out on others not because of hatred, anger, personal hostility, but simply because the day was not a success. In most cases, people do not care about you, your failures and successes. If they pretend, fake smile, take an interest in your life with an effort, will it be good for you? Not! So just forget it, and don't take everything to heart.
Get rid of pessimism
As I said, if you have failed a couple of times, this does not make you a failure. Go ahead, train yourself to be optimistic, tune in positively to any situation. Everything will be fine, you will manage, and once again - no drama is needed, do not generalize, do not rush to conclusions!
Let go of the past
It pulls you down. Useless watch thoughts about your mistakes, picking wounds, self-criticism, disappointment, anger. Let go of the past, taking from there only warm memories and experience based on the mistakes made.
Hope you find these tips helpful!
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