Although all parents say that they love their children the same way, in practice everything is completely different. Someone becomes a favorite, someone is an instigator of all problems, and sometimes a source of hatred. So it happened in Misha's life. He always felt himself superfluous in the family, unloved, unnecessary.
The class teacher called the mother again. The son does not want to go home alone, huddled in the corner of the classroom and cries. Misha is 11 years old, he misses the love of his parents so much. Only his older brother is at home, who offends him, so Misha is in no hurry to go home, waiting for his mother.
Half an hour later, my mother still arrives. Misha is waiting for her to hug him, kiss him, say that it's time for dinner, and they will go home together. But instead, a flurry of abuse pours out on the boy. And he ruined his mother's whole life, and she was tired of his antics, and in general, she does not even want to talk to him.
But Misha was simply afraid of his older brother. He is his mother's son from his first marriage. There was a painful story, the mother, probably head over heels in love, and the father of the child is a slob and a drunkard. He left his mother without a livelihood, and she had to raise her son herself. It is strange, but usually it is the first children from another marriage that women treat more harshly, remember their fathers and even hate them. And here it's the other way around. Mom remarried a good man, Misha was born.
Misha's father treated both sons in the same way, never separating them to us "foreign" and "ours". But my mother considered her eldest son to be the most important of the two, she pitied him, spoiled him, did not refuse him anything.
Misha understood this when he went to school. He had to wear his brother's clothes, which, of course, did not bother him much. But when the sons received gifts for the holidays, Misha roared with resentment. The older brother always had just gorgeous gifts, but Misha bought some trinkets. Misha's bicycle was already broken from his brother. Dad, of course, repaired it, but it was still impossible to safely ride it. The older brother had a skateboard, skis, rollerblades, skates, a prefix, a trendy phone. And Misha has almost nothing ...
When the boy was 14 years old, he began to earn extra money. Because I wanted a lot, but my parents turned a blind eye to it. Misha got a job at a vegetable warehouse, illegally, of course. There he began to work in tandem with Uncle Vova, who was already over 50.
The man felt sorry for the kid, tried to do most of the work, and always divided the money equally. One day the partners were talking. Uncle Vova noticed that the boy was upset about something, and decided to ask what was the matter:
- What's happened? We made good money today, but you're still sad.
Misha sighed and answered:
- You see, I don’t want to go home at all, I’m superfluous there.
Uncle Vova frowned and said:
- You know, little one, you need to study, develop, and not carry boxes here. And remember, there are no extra people, if you came into this world, then it was necessary. And you come on, set a goal for yourself, and go to it. You still have time to poke boxes. Here I was laid off at work, I have nowhere else to go, and you have your whole life ahead of you!
These words encouraged Misha so much that he radically reconsidered his life. I pulled up my studies, and also signed up for boxing. True, he began to work less often, but he still tried not to leave Uncle Vova.
In just six months, Misha has changed a lot. He was no longer afraid of his brother. And once, when he got into a fight, he simply rebuffed him. Mom, of course, cursed strongly, said that Misha had beaten his brother, but she did not take any measures. And in general, the parents began to be wary of Misha, as if they were afraid of him.
Now Misha has grown up, received a good education, having achieved everything on his own. He works in a law firm as a specialist in family conflicts of minors. He is young, so it is easier for him to find a common language with clients.
And Misha is still friends with Uncle Vova, they often see each other, they even celebrate holidays together. If then the man had not said vital words for the boy, it is not known how his fate would have turned out.
What do you want to add. You can not divide children into loved ones and not loved ones. You are everything for them, the whole world, the most dear and close in the world. Do not treat them so meanly, do not make them feel superfluous in the family!
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