Most people were looking forward to the New Year holidays so impatiently, getting ready, buying up all the supermarkets, setting the tables, dressing themselves and their apartment. But still, what drives us? Everybody celebrates and we celebrate? And with birthdays the same way. You puff all day in the kitchen, cook, then decorate yourself the rest of the time, like that very New Year tree, then guests, congratulations, then sleep - that's it, the birthday is over.
Truly happy people do not celebrate all these "great" holidays at all. I recently thought about it, why do I need all this fuss and life according to templates. It turns out that we do everything as society tells us, we act like everyone else, we do the same thing as everyone else. But every day in a person's life is a great gift. We are all looking forward to the holidays, and why not make them ourselves, any day, any time. Absolutely every day of our existence is worth celebrating!
For example, as a child, they discouraged me from celebrating the holidays. Of course, now I'm still in the process of "giving up" all of this, but I'm already close to it! I remember how I was 8-9 years old, and I was still quite silly and dragged with them to my relatives to celebrate a family celebration. Huge tables, a sea of delicacies, large groups of people under 20. The women ran, everyone brought dishes with food, made sure that everyone had enough glasses and cutlery. Men hastily filled their glasses, hounded jokes, told stories from life. I don’t know, probably everyone was having fun, it was the 90s, then people could only please themselves with all sorts of complex dishes and noisy companies.
But those days have passed, but the habit of getting together with noisy companies, cooking for 100 people and then throwing away half of it all remains.
Now the truth is, the picture is a little different. Young mothers compete with each other, who will celebrate their child's birthday better. They invite each other to a celebration, boast about dishes, outfits, setting, take photos to post them on the network. Now the child has such birthdays that there will not be enough money! Animators, expensive cafes, game rooms, even stars are invited by many, and the gifts are so expensive! But the child does not need all this, in general, it is only necessary for the parents.
I have a familiar family that lives very modestly, every day they eat almost the same pasta, in everything they deny themselves, but as the holidays go by all means to expensive restaurants, enjoying their cuisine and service. I asked: why can't we even out all this, eat delicious every day, and exclude restaurants. But her friend replied that weekdays are weekdays, but once a month to eat lobster, caviar, carpaccio is just that!
I do not understand this. Truly happy people will not live like this. They have a holiday every day. I'm not talking about the fact that they eat expensive meals every day, and celebrate something with a libation, no, they just always have bright and tasty food. They are happy every hour, and they do not need this contrast between everyday life and the holiday, they do not seek to boast in front of someone, they are so good!
That's right, isn't it? Why did we prepare like this all December, bustle, rush, set huge tables, and then, bang, chimes, and the feeling of celebration evaporated? Do I have one like this? And every year, with every “great” holiday, I simply lose heart, and I don’t want to celebrate anything. I think that a person does not have to wait for a special occasion to cook Olivier or invite guests. What do you think?
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