Sometimes the most charming, courteous and cute-looking people actually turn out to be very dangerous. It is very unpleasant when you think that a friend is sincere and open with you, that he is really friendly and kind, but in the end it turns out that he is completely not who he pretended to be!
Let's immediately weed out the like from our environment. Then you need to learn how to define them.
Here are the signs of an insincere friend
Passive-aggressive behavior
Oh, this is my straight favorite! There are people who do not seem to say anything straight on their heads, and even support them, but in fact, their passive aggression, on the contrary, is pretty unsettling. Fake friends use such a behavior tool to achieve some of their goals. And in fact, they just pin up, poke, poke at a mistake, try to attract attention, while disguising all this as a compliment. "Oh, this dress hides your fullness" or "Well, why are you crying, someone else will love you." That seems to be support, but such words feel so disgusting in my soul.
The most ideal example of passive aggression is Eeyore's donkey from the fairy tale about Winnie the Pooh! He is so poor and unhappy, it’s a pity for him, but he deliberately manipulates so that everyone would pay attention to him, give him gifts, feel sorry for him.
No responsibility
An insincere friend, if he promised to help, will let you down 100%. He simply cannot be relied on, he is irresponsible. And this is repeated over and over again. And the reason is only that he is simply pursuing some kind of personal benefit, and does not know how to admit his guilt!
He wants to always be in the spotlight
Whatever you tell him there, he will turn everything over so that everyone pays attention to him. You say that you have found a good job, and he replies to you: "Well, great, but I ..." I have…". He constantly boasts of something, talks about his achievements, and he also expects that in a difficult situation people will come to his aid.
He likes to spread gossip and rumors.
Is this not a manifestation of insincerity? Be on the lookout! If your friend speaks badly about other people, then most likely, when you are not around, he also mentions you in his stories!
He strives for excellence
He wants to be better than others in everything, even if they are his “best” friends. And this can be expressed, both in some significant things, and in small everyday events.
Well, we figured out how to identify an insincere friend, and what qualities it has really sincere?
He will always support any of your choices, whatever it may be.
Even if it goes against his beliefs, he will always understand and never judge your choice.
He won't mind the oddities
We all have some oddities and quirks, right? A sincere friend will simply accept all this in you, as a last resort, he will not pay his attention to it!
He knows how to forgive
We are imperfect and capable of making mistakes. A sincere friend will always forgive and understand, give a second chance, accept the situation. Next to such, you also want to become open and sincere.
He is always in touch, no matter what happens
Have you ever had a situation where at a difficult moment you try to contact your friend, but for some reason he does not pick up the phone? Yes, and after that he does not call back, and then at the meeting he tries to invent something for you, they say, he was busy, did not see, did not hear... So a real sincere friend will never do that! He will be in touch with you, even if you are separated by distances, he is ready to listen, give advice, support, help!
He is part of your life.
Friends are different. We were friends with someone in childhood, with someone at the institute, with someone in adulthood. But real sincere friends are those who are always with us, with whom the connection lasts for years. And sincere people, they are not afraid to open their hearts to us. This is very important and must be appreciated. These are the ones who become part of our life, members of our family!
I wish you all strong friendship with the most sincere people!
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