Everyone around says that labeling and judging people is wrong. But in reality, this is quite difficult to do. A person is just so arranged that he wants to be better than the others, and sometimes he tries to look more worthy against the background of others. Let's find out how you can deal with judgment.
Don't be quick to judge
It's as easy as shelling pears to condemn a person for his appearance, actions, speech. But hasty judgment deprives us of the opportunity to better know a person, to understand who he is, and what is his uniqueness. Therefore, you need to get into the habit of never judging people at all, no matter what the situation may be. If you stop judging people in a hurry, then you will not judge yourself. And we ourselves are our worst critics. The sooner we throw off the burden of unnecessary judgments, the faster a place will appear in our heart and soul for love, for ourselves as well.
Before labeling a person as “bad,” try to get to know him better, identify his positive qualities, understand what he is good at, look at the situation from his point of view. When you stop judging people, you will see that you are judged less. The process is gradual, but it works.
Switch to the positive
Better to occupy your mind with the good for others and yourself, switching from negative to positive. The next time someone allows himself to judge you, do not drive yourself into thoughts of what you really did wrong, rather think about what is positive about you and what you have achieved. You yourself know that you have achieved a lot, because you always give it your best. And there will always be many pessimists around who want to clip your wings. Therefore, the ability to switch from negative to positive is a very good habit, and allows you to gain confidence in your capabilities.
Think of yourself without judgment. Don't scold yourself for your mistakes, don't eat yourself up with negative thoughts if you've been judged, and don't judge yourself back.
Don't take the words of others as a personal grudge
People will always criticize others. But it's worth reminding yourself constantly that criticism is based on their own limited perspective. In other words, they didn’t live in your “skin”, so you should not care about their opinion. It also happens that an envious person wants to trip you up, tries to deprive you of self-confidence. Yes, it will make him feel better. But you need to learn to stop being offended by it.
It is difficult to be offended if the envious person is among your loved ones. In this case, you will want to show him that you will not be silent and are always ready to go on the offensive. But the best option is simply not to pay any attention to this situation, as if it is of little importance to you. It will be difficult, it requires tremendous willpower. You will want to fight back, justify yourself, respond in kind. When you are not confident, you begin to wonder if there is any truth in the words of your abuser. If there is truth, then did he really want to offend you, offend? After all, criticism can also be useful, helping to grow.
Leave the situation and people in the past
If you have tried all the methods, but still understand that criticism and condemnation from others destroys your self-esteem, then just walk away from the situation and leave the offenders in the past. Who does not allow you to take and stop communicating with people who condemn you? When there is only one negative around you, you involuntarily begin to feed on it, and you become like everyone else. And everyone condemns, criticizes, gossips, reads lectures. Don't you like it? Then it is better not to communicate with such negative people.
People condemn others in order to humiliate them, in order to appear better against their background. But you just have to be yourself, and not think about who did what, said who and what dressed. If you are yourself, then you will cease to be afraid that someone will want to clip your wings. Try to show empathy for people, even if they are angry, criticizing and dissatisfied with everything! Their life is none of your business, your life does not concern them. They see what you are doing with their distorted perception of the world, so just ignore and don't reciprocate the anger.
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