In childhood, they said that if a boy tugs on a girl's pigtails, it means that he loves her. It is he who pays so much attention to her, flirts with her. But, if we talk about adulthood, then everything is quite the opposite. If a person treats you badly, if he hurts you, then he does not need you, he does not value you and does not value you!
Beats - this does not mean that he loves! Insults, humiliates - that means, does not respect you. Why do women very often close their eyes to such behavior of partners, try to create for others, the image of a lucky woman, but in fact they get stuck for many years in very terrible relationship. Of course, I want to believe more in what he says about love, and not in the fact that he hits or mocks emotionally.
If a man treats you with respect, he appreciates you. If his actions and words hurt you, if after communicating with him you feel bad, disgusting at heart, this means that he treats you badly. It's simple. White is white, black is black, not the other way around. But women love to add color, they love to shield the negative actions of their husbands, they love to rape themselves, they love to deceive themselves and those around them. Probably, they just want to be happy, afraid of loneliness, afraid to take a step forward.
But you have to take this step, just because you want to be a happy woman. If a man treats you badly, then he thinks very badly of you! No, he is not trying to somehow hold you back, no, he does not mean something else, he is not playing, he is not testing you. If he treats you badly, then he doesn't love you, he doesn't respect you!
And it doesn't matter at all that after inflicting pain he will tell you how much he loves you. It is not words that matter, but deeds. If a person says one thing and does another, you need to look at what he is doing! If a man interrupts you, does not listen to what you are telling him, is rude to you, rude, allows himself to offend you - it means that you are not important to him!
Let's say you finally realize that your man treats you badly. Now what? What to do? How to proceed?
Don't ignore it. Enough to turn a blind eye to his bad deeds, and think that over time everything will pass, everything will change. The more you endure everything that happens, the more you accept it all, the worse his behavior will be.
There is no need to answer evil for evil. It will not help save your relationship in any way. You will yell at each other, then you will make up passionately, and then everything will start all over again. And you will look like a scandalous couple.
Talk if something doesn't suit you. At first he will deny, and then he will understand that you are presenting in essence. You shouldn't put up with all this, maybe it's time to make a decision and leave it.
There is no need to build illusions, deceive yourself that you have a truly strong union, that you are both happy. Don't make excuses for his behavior by telling your friends that you have a black eye from hitting the closet. Don't let him call himself bad words. Why do you put up with all this? Are you afraid of being alone, afraid that people will laugh if you break up? But they can see everything, most likely they are already making fun of you. You put an end to this story of yours!
Understand that people always say what you need to know, and you just have to listen carefully and watch how they behave! Do not be afraid of loneliness, there is nothing terrible in it, it is more terrible to live with a person who does not appreciate or respect you!
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