We recently arranged a meeting of classmates, but I personally did not have very impressions of the event. I was simply disappointed in my old friends, I did not expect at all that they would neglect themselves like that. I understand everything, lack of funds, difficult times and so on, but when a woman chooses for herself such a a heavy cross, and, despite the fact that every day it gets worse, it continues to stubbornly move towards its goal, this is already bust.
I'll tell you about one classmate Luda. She was a very beautiful girl at school, a punchy, local ringleader, she just could not sit still. All prophesied to her a brilliant future, career, success in everything. She was so cool, as everyone loved her, everyone was friends with her. But then our punchy girl, despite the fact that she had the opportunity to leave for another city and go to college, she went to the local vocational school. A very strange thing to do for a person with a "brilliant" future.
Already at the age of 20, Luda jumped out to marry our common classmate, a quiet one. He let the whole school drool on her, but she always chose the guys to match her, and greeted Mishka every other time. And then suddenly they have love. It was immediately clear that Lyudka would crush Misha with his authority. And she smiled slyly and said that she had big plans for this little man. The bear quickly turned into a henpecked, who unquestioningly fulfilled all the wishes of his wife.
There is no love between them, but Luda still gives birth and gives birth. Right one after the other, now they have three, and a classmate says that every baby is planned for them. Somehow Luda manages to cope with her maternal responsibilities, and also took up a part-time job. She bakes some kind of pies to order, since she's been trained as a cook. A husband cannot provide for a family, of course, a wife, three children, a dog, a mortgage! Luda asked her mother to sit with her grandchildren while she worked, but her grandmother refused. She does not understand why it was necessary to breed poverty.
The bear is like a worn out lemon, the feeling that he cannot earn his own food, poor fellow. In the evenings he works as a watchman, and does not sit at home either. Luda always comes up with some kind of occupation for him. And he did the repair himself, and changed all the plumbing with his own hands.
It is impossible for Luda's eldest child to study, because there is always noise and din in the house, and he went to first grade. This is what her friend told us. There, in general, children have a small age difference, they are 6 years old, 4 years old and 2 years old. Luda has ceased to cope altogether, she breaks down on children because of all the problems.
Recently, Luda's youngest daughter went to a nursery, and the woman was able to get a normal job. There she is not just working, but taking a break from the whole booth. Luda doesn't even have time for herself. One of our classmates, when she saw the overweight, swollen and unkempt Luda, could not restrain herself and said that she looked awful, and that we all expected something different from her. Rough, of course, but I even agree with her, although I kept silent.
Luda cried, she is sure that happiness is in the family, she wants more children, in her plans to give birth to at least two more! But is this really happiness? She does not live at all, she is tired, she beat down on herself, she tortured her husband. All his life he runs from child to child, from stove to mop, and believes that this is happiness!
What a pity for such women, driven by maternal responsibilities. What did their parents instill in them, that happiness is in children, that happiness is standing at the stove until death and washing diapers? I do not understand this! I love children, my husband too, but is it really so normal to live like Luda and Misha?
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