How to combine work and motherhood, without bias in one direction or another? How not to go crazy while doing this? 5 mistakes of working moms - don't do this, please
How can a working mom not go crazy? Especially if she has a very small child, or even several. Such a woman, like a tank, stands at the forefront, trying with her body to cover the needs of children, families, solve everyday issues, and at the same time remain an adequate employee. How to do this, and at the same time remain in the resource?
Error 1. Trying to embrace the immensity
A working mother is constantly in a state of "running". Her multitasking keeps you on your toes. There are dozens of thoughts in my head plans: make an appointment with a doctor, buy white tights for the garden, talk to a tutor, etc. The brain works non-stop. Many moms make to-do lists even at night, instead of sleeping and replenishing their resource. Alas, one cannot stay in such a state for a long time. After all, sooner or later, the nerves will fail, and health will be shaken.
According to the coaches, family issues need to be resolved either before starting work, or in a specially planned pause between large amounts of work. You can't constantly twitch on small household tasks during the day, otherwise you will turn into a neurotic.
Family issues should be resolved before the start of the day / istockphoto.com
Mistake 2. Don't find time for yourself
In this work-to-home race, it is very difficult to carve out time for yourself and your own needs. Without a break, pauses, half an hour in silence, you simply run the risk of quickly sliding into a pit of dissatisfaction. The state of a squeezed lemon is not the best option for mom. Here you need to show courage and tell family members that you have an hour to do yourself. Not a child, not a husband, not a home. Ask a family member or spouse to help you with this.
Replenish the resource if you want to remain an adequate person / istockphoto.com
Mistake 3. Indifference to your health
Moms often forget that they are not omnipotent. In the cycle of events and tasks, emerging health problems are usually ignored. But this is absolutely impossible to do! You must remember that if something happens, you will not be able to work or take care of the children. Therefore, be extremely attentive to your well-being. And remember to visit regularly gynecologist and a dentist. Well, an annual check-up is a great way to keep everything under control.
Error 4. Mental torment
Most working mothers feel guilty. Especially if it was not possible to serve the decree for various reasons, and the woman was forced to go to work.
In fact, this mental anguish is very draining of the nervous system. If you chew on yourself every day that you devote little time to your child, or, conversely, work in a half of strength, and feel like an ineffective employee, you should think about outside help. Working with a psychologist will help restore emotional balance and alignment of peace of mind.
Error 5. Social vacuum
When you work a lot on two fronts, there is no time for loved ones outside the office and at home. Meetings, but just phone calls, come to naught. First - due to lack of time, and then - the distance increases, and you understand that there is no one to even talk to, there are no friends... It is important to understand that the children will grow up and leave the house. Who will you stay with? Think about it now!
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