I remember my childhood very well, I associate it with cooking delicious dishes and a large number of guests. Mom was a very hospitable person, and she instilled in me. I always helped her with the preparation of pastries, hot dishes and salads before some important events.
Mom knew how to gather friends, neighbors and relatives around the same table. We often visited her friends, I even cooked something delicious for them. Yes, and I myself often came home with my classmates, and we ate my mother's pies with tea. Now I also adhere to such traditions. I love to cook, I know how, I love it when guests are at home, we have common acquaintances with my husband, whom we are always glad to see at our place. But her husband's relatives have recently begun to behave tactlessly!
All some big holidays, like birthdays, New Years, March 8, we always celebrated with us. My husband and I invited both friends and family, set large tables. I am always looking for some new recipes, I try to take into account the tastes of each of my guests. But her husband's relatives believe that everything is as it should be. They even stopped thanking me for the invitation, for the food, they even stopped saying "thank you". Take everything for granted!
In the preparation of dishes, the husband's relatives never participate, they come immediately to the ready-made. And I only recently began to understand how right my husband is when he tries to dissuade me from another holiday with his relatives. Indeed, it takes a lot of time, effort and money to assemble a beautiful and tasty table, but I do not receive any gratitude. But I always tried to treat my relatives with understanding, and just joked it off, telling my husband that we already had a tradition.
But for a year now, I came to the conclusion that my husband was right. Here, in the last New Year, I not only did not hear "thank you". I received comments about the dishes I cooked. In one salad I put little salt, in the other I didn’t add any ingredient, and I bought the wine too cheap, and in general, it was somehow inconsistent on the table. I endured everything, and my husband suggested not to invite anyone else to the holidays. But no, it's not enough for me.
On the next holiday, the rudeness from her husband's relatives continued. We agreed that I didn't cook the salads myself, but just bought everything in the supermarket and put it on the table. It was very upsetting, because I tried so hard, and did not get out of the kitchen for four hours.
And now, my birthday, I do not plan anything with the guests, but at the last moment I still decide that it is impossible to deviate from traditions, and I call my husband's relatives. That day I was very fussy, I cooked a lot, I didn't even have time to dress up properly. When I put my favorite dish on the table, another remark flew in to me, like I didn't learn to cook anything else except him. Everyone laughed merrily, and I went into the kitchen. I so wanted to burst into tears, but I pulled myself together, grabbed another salad from the table and carried it to the guests.
Then I could no longer remain silent, and expressed everything that I think:
“Who's got the next birthday there? To whom we go to visit, otherwise everything is with us, and with us. All the same, you don’t like how I cook, sometimes there is little salt, sometimes it is incredibly tasty, sometimes the wine is cheap, sometimes it is not varied. You know, my husband's birthday is soon, so you don't come, because I will not cook anyway! My husband and I will go to a restaurant that day! But, if you insist, we can come to you! "
All were silent and exchanged glances. I have never shown myself from such a side, and in general I am a very friendly and kind person, but I just got tired of enduring this tactlessness from my husband's relatives. Yes, that evening was ruined, but I remembered his words to every guest. Unfortunately, I never got any apologies, although I don't need them. I don't even want to see these relatives at home now!
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