Just think, mothers are not eternal. Someday the day will come, and the one that gave birth to you, that raised you, will simply go away forever. And you will only have memories of her, and also regrets that you did not have time to ask her forgiveness for thoughtlessly spoken words ...
We do not expect this, do not think about it, sometimes it seems to us that our parents are somehow eternal or something. Unfortunately, this is not the case. We are all mortals. Think about it! Someday mom will not be, and you offend her with such phrases!
"I have no time now"
Once my mother carried you under her heart for 9 months, perhaps her pregnancy knocked her out of her life, maybe it was difficult and difficult. Then you were a baby, and your mother did not sleep with you at night. She had to work hard to get you on your feet, to get you to school, to pay for tutors. She got up before you, cooked breakfasts, dinners, cleaned, ironed, washed. It was not easy for her. She listened to your stories, warmed you with her love, took pity on you, took care of you. And did she ever say to you at your request: "I have no time now"?
"I hate you"
And she loves you no matter what. Even when you are angry, even if you have not achieved anything, even if you disappear for months on business trips.
"I won't eat that."
Do you know how many recipes Mom went through to prepare a dish that everyone will like? And do you really think it is permissible to say that you do not like her food? Mom stood at the stove for hours, and you don't even want to try?
"You raised me this way"
This is how you tell her when you realize that you have made some mistake. Of course, it's easier not to get better, not to change, but to make mistakes over and over again, while blaming your mother! Nobody knows how to be the right mom, it is now full of all kinds of literature on a similar topic, but still, each case is individual. So do not blame everything on your parents, they wanted to raise a good person out of you anyway!
"You never loved daddy"
Here the situation may be related to the divorce of the parents, or maybe the father is no longer alive. But, she loved, if she did not love, you would not be in this world!
"That's right, your father abandoned you."
You can't say that to women! Whatever happened, my mother experienced a breakup with her father very painfully. Maybe she was crying into the pillow while you were sleeping, but she did not show her worries to you. And you can't even imagine what was in her soul. Both partners are always to blame for the breakdown of relations, you should not blame your mother for everything, you should not blame anyone at all, this is life!
"Mom, you still won't understand"
We all age, sometimes it is difficult for our elderly mothers to explain the work of some new contraption, and it is easier to dismiss it. But you only knew how much work it cost her once to explain everything to you, teach you to read, write, etc. And she never brushed you off, not once!
"You read very little"
It's good that you have such a love of reading. But believe me, your mom has read quite a lot in her life, at least job ads or recipes!
"Mom, don't bother, you don't even have any education."
Or maybe mom had to babysit you instead of studying? Maybe she didn't have time to work and study because you had to be fed?
"Mom, I won't come"
On her birthday, on New Year's, on March 8... But she's waiting! She understands that you have a lot of work, worries and, in general, your own adult life, but she gave all of herself to you, put her youth in order to raise you, and you have no time again?
"I was busy, so I didn't call."
And mom was so lonely, or was she sick, and wanted at least words of sympathy from you, or she ran out of money, and she wanted to ask you... at least a loan?
"You Didn't Love Me"
What? Do you seriously think your mom didn't give you enough love? She loved you the way she could. Maybe, of course, not the way you wanted it, but definitely with all your heart!
"Something you look bad"
First of all, your mother is a woman. And she could hear such a thing like a knife to the heart! Don't like her wrinkles and bags under her eyes? Well, then maybe pay her a visit to the beautician?
"I will not come to you on vacation, I took a ticket to the sea"
Mom understands that you want to go to the sea, but she is so eager to see you, your children. And she herself was at sea?
"You ruined my whole life"
Now it is so fashionable to talk about a "toxic mother." And under this concept they are already shoving all women in a row. What exactly did your mother do to you? Do not try to insult her like that!
You have only one mom! Don't make the mistake of blaming yourself for the rest of your life!
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