They say that once again saying "I'm sorry" is even better. But psychotherapists think differently. What is not worth apologizing for according to experts
How often do you apologize? On business, just like that, for a bunch of words? We often confuse good breeding with more complex, psychological situations that we don't even think about. And if you sin like that, you should listen to the opinion of the psychotherapist Andrey Sumskiy. He highlighted the main things for which you should not ask for forgiveness:
- if you don't like what is happening;
- if your principles are not perceived. The same applies to your own innermost desires;
- for the mistakes of the past;
- for your thoughts;
- for success;
- for other people's feelings and unjustified hopes;
Also, there are several other situations where it is better to remain silent than to say "sorry".
If you want to be successful
According to the expert, the excessive need to apologize can destroy your authority at work and your status in society. After all, a person who says "I'm sorry" for every sneeze simply ceases to be taken seriously, and they regard him as a windbag. Such a person is insecure, and the team vividly uses it for their own purposes. Be prepared to start wiping your feet on you.
Needless to apologize can destroy your credibility at work / istockphoto.com
If you want to be a leader
According to European psychologists, restrictions on apologies... increase self-esteem! Yes, yes, it didn't seem to you. This is what contributes to the cultivation of an inner leader, a person who knows how to keep balance and knows what to strive for.
If you want to be mentally healthy
In the opinion, again, of psychologists, excessive excitement and a desire to constantly apologize do not testify at all about upbringing. If you part with “I'm sorry, I'm sorry,” you are living a negative scenario: from self-flagellation to low self-esteem. Very often, it is enough just to admit a mistake, and not to bow about and repent. By the way, there is a plugin "Just Not Sorry", which allows you to find in the correspondence places where you indulge in self-destruction.
The urge to constantly apologize is not about upbringing / istockphoto.com
Keep balance
What is paradoxical when it was possible to develop self-control, it is worth realizing the following: our borders end where strangers begin. Because we often hurt without noticing it. If after a while, you realized that you "screwed up" and offended the person, then it is better to apologize. This is evidence that you are a strong person who is responsible for your own actions.
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