Some parents, raising their children, doubt everything, while others are sure that they know everything and are doing the right thing. I don’t know which one you think you are, but I think that the following tips will not be superfluous to anyone. Tell me, is the guarantee of a child's well-being is only his physical health? Naturally, it is important that he be well-fed, healthy, cheerful, contented. But you also need to pay attention to psychological education. In other words, watch your tongue, especially when you are irritated or angry about something.
And now we are not talking about abusive or offensive words, it is clear that such things should generally be prohibited in families. We are talking about some phrases and wording that can lead to serious consequences in the future. And it's time to eradicate them from your vocabulary, if you do not want to ruin the life of your children.
Toxic parenting phrases that depress the child
"Here we are at your age ..."
Remember once and for all, you and your child are a different generation. I also remember myself, let's say at the age of 15, I played with dolls. And girls now at this age look like adults, and, naturally, they have no time for dolls, every third has a groom! You can be a super successful person in life, an excellent student, an athlete with a grade and an exemplary child in all respects. But, your child does not have to be the same and equal to you. Yes, he will follow your example, but he is not obliged to copy you. It is unique in itself, there is no need to develop unnecessary complexes in it.
"We Know Better"
Well, just a phrase with which all ends are cut off. Yes, we, parents, want our children only happiness, we want to save them from bitterness, disappointment, unpleasant experience. But, if you paddle with everything with this approach, your offspring will never learn to think with his own head. After all, although it is necessary to learn from other people's mistakes, in reality they learn from their own. Calm down, let your child try to do something, let him stumble, draw conclusions, move on. Otherwise, he will turn into an adult who himself does not understand what he wants from life.
"Because we decided so"
You will not prove your authority to the child by uttering a phrase like this. But let him know that his opinion means nothing to you. Therefore, it is worth rephrasing what has been said and be sure to argue your opinion. Why, it is better to do as you say, and not otherwise.
"Give it back, I'll do it myself"
Naturally, when you are in a hurry to go to work in the morning, it’s easier for you to quickly dress your child and drag him to kindergarten. But you don’t give him any independence, and then you will sigh that he can’t do anything. Let him do it himself, let him puff, work, in the end he will learn everything, it is important to be patient.
"You won't go out for a walk until ..."
Until you wash the floor, clean the room, eat up the oatmeal. The child will very quickly begin to copy you, and then you will take a full sip. Do not be surprised that they will start giving you ultimatums, such as: "I will not clean the room while you ..." and so on.
We live in a frantic rhythm, so these phrases can be pronounced by us mechanically. You said and forgot, but everything remained in the child's memory, and also left an imprint on the formation of his personality. Therefore, you need to be more careful with what you say.
Who is ready to admit in the comments that they use such phrases in their vocabulary?
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