The topic of self-love is very popular nowadays. We are told how important it is to love yourself. Why is it so necessary. And around there are still so many insecure people who have long outgrown their adolescence, but have not found the key to themselves. It is sad.
Since I write a lot about fashion and style, I propose to see how low self-esteem manifests itself in women when it comes to wardrobe. I would really like you not to recognize yourself. However, if you find out, it doesn't matter. This is just a reason to think that it's time to change everything. And if a woman really wants to - she will definitely succeed!
When choosing, you rely on someone else's opinion, and not on your desires.
Of course, sometimes the look from the outside is very important, it helps to open new horizons for us. Plus there are people with perfect taste, whose opinion you want to listen to. However, this should not go beyond boundaries.
You wanted a black dress for yourself. Because it's pretty versatile. Because you like it. Because it will be easy for you to fit it into your wardrobe and it will not collect dust to the wardrobe. We went to the shopping center and took a friend with us. And she began: "Yes, the black is aging," "This is very boring," "What a melancholy." And you went home with a colorful dress that is "bright, complimentary, flirty." At the same time, you either sigh sadly that you should have insisted on your own, or you start to really doubt your desires. Do not do like this!
Always be aware of this fine line between advice and imposition.
You are shy about consultants
Many of us dislike sales assistants. However, it's one thing to just love to make a choice on your own, and it's another to feel confusion, awkwardness, and embarrassment. It can go so far that you simply do not go to stores where sellers take an active position.
A confident woman can always tell a consultant that she does not need his services. She does it easily and naturally. Without going to extremes of snobbery or awkwardness. Or she will use his services to facilitate her choice. The uncertain one will mumble something, lower her eyes and rush to the opposite corner, where there is no annoying seller. Even if there are slippers hanging there, and she came for trousers. Of course, the degrees of embarrassment can vary.
How do you stand with this issue?
Fear of trying new things
This fear is not always tied to low self-esteem, but it is still quite common. The fear of moving away from an image that is familiar not only to you, but also to your environment. And suddenly they will not understand. They will make fun of fashionable trousers.
You look at beautiful women of your age, for example, admiring their style. How cleverly they put together a wardrobe and how many modern cool things there are. The eye rejoices. I want to look at it. But you are embarrassed to buy something for yourself. It won't suit you. It's too bold! It's too weird.
I love these luxurious flared jeans so much, but I'll buy myself the good old skinny jeans because they are so good and familiar. Do you recognize yourself?
You cannot afford to buy an expensive item.
No, I will not tell you here how important it is to “invest” in good bags, accessories, things made from natural fabrics, and further down the list. Everyone decides for himself what to invest in. For example, I prefer ETFs, stocks and bonds.
But often women with low self-esteem save a lot on themselves. Not because of the principles of reasonable consumption and all this. And because they cannot afford to buy something more expensive. And it seems like you want to, but even dreaming is scary. But this is fundamentally wrong! Any extreme, be it shopaholism or total economy on oneself, is not good.
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