How to maintain a relationship after a divorce: 8 rules

Divorce is an unpleasant process. And if the couple took this step, there is definitely no love and sympathy in the relationship. More often, after such a fiasco in their personal lives, people feel complete devastation, anger, hatred, resentment. The palette of negative feelings depends on what is the reason for the divorce. But the main thing is that communication after divorce in this case it is practically impossible. But what if there are children in the marriage? They need both parents. Calm and peaceful dialogues between them are the key to a stable mental state of the child.

8 rules for maintaining a relationship after a divorce

1. You know, they say that both are to blame for the divorce. And so it is. Therefore, even if your spouse or spouse cheated on you, you should not only blame him for the fact that the marriage fell apart. But don't execute yourself either. Two people in a pair

create relationships, and two of them destroy. According to psychologists, people end a marriage because they feel uncomfortable. At home they are strangers: the partner does not want to listen, does not want to adjust or understand the other. As soon as you stop in the stream of accusations against your husband or wife, you will no longer want to take revenge, do it hurts to offend a person with whom they recently lived together and who, perhaps, is very strong loved.

2. If in marriage you did not manage to figure out what you did not like about your partner, then this still needs to be done. Otherwise, you will not be able to continue communication. You may even have to resort to the help of a psychologist.

3. After realizing mistakes, ex-spouses often converge again. Some even get married again and live successfully for many years. But this option is possible only with mutual desire. Otherwise, a bunch of new grievances will be layered on the heap of claims, due to which the divorce occurred. But if the relationship does not work out, you can at least channel it in a friendly direction.

4. If you are trying to stab your ex-spouse as painfully as possible, to cause him trouble, then you are not ready to let him go. There is no need to make claims, because you have already taken an important step - divorced. Then why go on?

5. If the previous points do not cause you any difficulties, then the next - controversial stage, should go smoothly. This - alimony, payments for doctors and the child's school, the division of housing... It will be easy for you to negotiate.

6. Try to conduct a civilized conversation - do not insult, do not be rude, do not humiliate the one who initiates the conversation. Sometimes it's easier to maintain a normal relationship if you don't do petty mischief.

7. Reasonably communicate to the child what happened, and not: "father-villain" or "mother-witch." Do not involve children in your showdown, it is already hard for them. Talk to your child, explain why you made the decision not to be together anymore. Be sure to emphasize that both of you are mom and dad, you still love your child, no matter what happens.

8. Even if you are no longer married, you are still parents. And for the sake of these proud titles, it is worth trying to remain friends even after a divorce.

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