Over the years, we come to certain points. More often we become wiser, our worldview changes. I will tell you what I came to with time, how my views have changed. Of course, I still gain and gain wisdom, I do not pretend to any truth. I just share my personal changes.
I would be glad if you share yours. Let's share our experiences in the comments, it's always so interesting to read the feedback.
Divide everything into white and black
Life has shown me that it is impossible to divide everything into good and bad. Everything is much more complicated, life has many more facets. Between these two extremes is the whole world. And if in my youth I knew for sure that white is white, now I can no longer always be sure of this.
Children sometimes get offended when their mother scolds them. They like it when mom is kind, caring and gentle. But when my mother swears, prohibits something or forces her to remove the toys scattered throughout the house, I hardly like it. However, at the same time, my mother does nothing wrong, she is engaged in education, and this is not always gingerbread. Only kids don't understand it yet.
Over the years, people begin to understand that the world is not divided into black and white. However, this does not happen for everyone, and many continue to hang labels at 40, 50, and 60. This "option" is not included with age by default. It's a pity, because life is easier without her.
Live stereotypes
This is my favorite. The older I get, the wider my boundaries are. Every year there are less and less stereotypes in my head. But the most important thing is that I stop imposing them not only on my own life, but also on someone else's. And do you know what the hell is gone right away? Judging other people. Life is much more pleasant without him.
Lena has not married, and she is already 30. It's time for Olya to give birth, and she keeps busy with the cats. Natasha is 45, and she put on a mini. Nadia has a grandson from the army, and she is still getting younger. Yes, let them live as they want, I would have to deal with my life!
For some reason, many have such an attitude that stereotype = rule. We are obliged to get married before 30, otherwise we will look pathetic or defective. At 45, we are obliged to disassemble our wardrobe and throw out everything pink, short and further down the list, otherwise we will look ridiculous. Come on, it's all nonsense.
Trying to prove yourself right
I have long ceased to prove anything to someone, to defend my opinion with foam at the mouth and spend my strength on it. What for? I do not have such a need "I am always right". First, it happens that everyone has their own truth. Secondly, there is a category of people with whom disputes are meaningless. All the words of the opponent are white noise for them, they are firmly convinced only of their truth and they simply do not have the ability to look at the situation from a different angle. I do not want to turn into such a person, this is alien to me, I pass.
I don't want to waste my time, energy, resources on meaningless arguments. And those people who consider their opinion to be the only correct one amuse me. It's very funny to watch a man who is sure that he knows everything better than anyone else.
Worry about age
For women (and possibly for men, I will not deny) their age after a certain number is a real stress factor. Of course, we all want to stay forever young, beautiful, healthy. And as soon as we kind of resigned ourselves to the new figure, a new one crept up again.
But in due time I came to one thought, after which I was simply released. It happens, of course, I dive for a minute or two, but no more. As young as we are now, we will never be. Go back and read the previous sentence again. Feel it. After all, in a few years you will see how young you were at that moment, but did not appreciate it.
New tens are especially difficult. But at 37 years old, worrying about 30 already seems stupid, and at 65 we breathe in as we were young at 50. We always compare our younger self with the present, but we rarely compare ourselves with ourselves in the future. So let's be ahead of the curve. And right now, enjoy your age. As young as we are now, we will never be.
Thank you very much for your attention! My article is not a call to do the same, I shared my experience, it may not coincide with yours, it will be interesting for me to know about yours)) Your Katya.
