We all love our loved ones very much, and we are worried about their well-being, health and success. We want our family to live forever. But many have faced the loss of loved ones this year due to such an insidious coronavirus. What to do if it became scary that thoughts about the death of loved ones could materialize? How to clear your head of fears? How to calm down and live happily?
Catherine is only 20 years old. Last year, a former classmate died from covid. The girl had diabetes mellitus, heart problems, so she had a very difficult time recovering from the virus, received a lot of complications and as a result she was gone. Since that day, Katya has been unable to find a place for herself. She began to somehow unconsciously think about the death of her relatives. And she cannot control her thoughts in any way. She already feels bad from herself, she is so frightened that negative thoughts can materialize! After all, this is a well-known fact, when you think about something for a long time, it comes true. Sometimes these thoughts bring Katya to tears and panic attacks. How to stop being afraid and remove negativity from your head?
Many people probably have such thoughts in their heads, and it is really very difficult to get rid of them. It was the pandemic with its sudden complications and deaths that blew everyone up. The loss of even acquaintances is very painful and scary ...
I think that initially you need to think about the degree of danger to your relatives. Are there any threats to their health, are there any serious vascular, heart or pulmonary diseases? How realistic is it to lose them? Are they really sick with something serious, or is the fear of the coronavirus just getting into their heads?
Katya got it into her head that her thoughts would certainly materialize, but is she some kind of omnipotent. Is each of us able to control the fate of people? Yes, if it were, our enemies probably would not have lingered around us for a long time. We are all living people, we all tend to be afraid of something. And what will change from the fact that we are afraid? Nothing! But the nerves to oneself can be trepanned very strongly, which can even lead to illness! Yes, our thoughts can be material, but you shouldn't take it literally!
Most likely, in Katya's case, she is experiencing a false sense of guilt. As if she suddenly became responsible for all the troubles in her family. This is the case for many who were accused of serious negative consequences of behavior by their parents in childhood.
A child under 7 years old cannot be guilty at all. It is by the age of seven that an area of conscience is formed in a person's brain, and only then do we begin to understand our responsibility and feel guilty. And that is why schooling begins precisely at the age of seven, when a child can be responsible for his bad behavior and low grades. By the way, children should also confess before the sacrament, only from this age.
To overcome your fear of the death of loved ones, you can try the following. Psychologists recommend that you imagine the worst case scenario that can happen, and then model your behavior as you will experience it. You can even write down all the possible consequences of what happened, both negative and. possibly positive. All this needs to be analyzed, or even better, talk to a person you trust!
If you can't get rid of obsessive thoughts, then the best option is to seek help from a psychologist. Otherwise, you will not be able to cope with your fears on your own, which will greatly undermine your health.
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