We do not become good parents as soon as a child is born. Moreover, for all the growing up of a son or daughter, many people still fail to become good mothers and fathers. Today we are talking about mothers and daughters. The fact is that according to statistical studies, it was concluded that whether there will be harmonious relationship, the daughter's perception of herself as a girl in adulthood depends, and her self-esteem in the future.
For mothers with reputable parenting methods, daughters grow up to be confident and sociable. And for mothers who are demanding, but their demands are realistic, girls become responsible and authoritative.
Here's what every daughter needs from her mother
Self-acceptance and confidence
It's about this, if the mother was always not happy with her appearance, criticized herself, did not accept who she is, the daughter, unfortunately, will completely copy her, and grow up unhappy with herself. That is, the mother hates herself in front of the mirror, looking for flaws in herself, her daughter does not consider her unattractive, but will grow up insecure. This is not genetics, this is the ability to accept oneself or inability!
Support, warm relationships, intimacy
If this is present in the relationship between daughter and mother, then we can say that they are positive. The daughter feels that she will always be supported, not condemned, but understood, and therefore will grow up calm and self-confident. And she will have adequate self-esteem. And, on the contrary, those girls who have always faced criticism from their mother did not understand them, were often scolded, and grow up into notorious women with low self-esteem.
Emotional comfort and support
A good mother-daughter relationship protects the child from any emotional threats. But teenage girls are much more likely to experience stress if their relationship with their mothers is unreliable, weak, not trusting. And the already matured daughter, who in childhood did not receive emotional support from her mother and did not feel comfort next to her, becomes susceptible to any emotional threats from outside!
Expectations are high, but fulfilled
Mothers 'faith in their daughters' success is very important. And it contributes to the fact that in the future girls grow up to be self-sufficient individuals, self-confident. If a mother expects a lot from her daughter, but doable, at the same time believes in her child, supports everything, prompts something, then the girl will succeed! Moreover, success will be in a career, and in relationships with men, and in communication with people.
Authoritative parenting
There are 4 categories of parenting: indifferent, liberal, authoritative and authoritarian. The most successful is precisely the authoritative one. Such upbringing, even in childhood, helps in the formation of positive cognitive skills. The girl perceives the world and her place in it easier. In the future, she becomes self-confident, sociable, and she does not care who and what said or thought about her. By the way, when raising sons, it is also better to stick to the authoritative parenting category.
As you can see, no titanic efforts need to be made at all for your daughter to grow up as a confident and self-sufficient woman. Still, you should not let the child's upbringing take its course. Attacks should not keep the daughter "in tight hands", not allowing her to make decisions, try something, be independent. Just stick to high standards that must be workable and real, and then your daughter will thank you when she celebrates her 30th birthday!
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