Conserved negative emotions can burst out at any moment - and you will break the woods. Therefore, it is important to throw them out. The psychologist told how to do it in the most peaceful way.
1. Healing cry. You can go out into the field / forest and shout there enough. It is very helpful to listen to your body during this process. Shout until you feel that the sound is coming from the solar plexus. You may not be able to do it right away, but gradually you will master the science of the healing cry. Only if you yell at home - remember the nerves of your neighbors.
2. A pillow case. Take a pillow (advice to women) or a punching bag (advice to men) and hit them in an image of who you are angry with. Give it a heat, as it should, express everything that has accumulated! Torment until you get tired or until you lose interest in it.
3. Angry letter. Write a message to your abuser. Write whatever comes to mind, do not be shy in expressions. The letter can be written two, three times, until you get tired. Just end the letter in a positive way - with forgiveness or irony. Then what you write can be burned or finely torn and thrown away.
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4. Life-saving sport. Go to soccer to play, boxing, gym, skydiving.
5. Physical work. Dig up a vegetable garden, arrange a spring cleaning, rip out the toilet - give your body work so that it can waste the negative energy that is bursting with it.
6. Radiance of love. Try to see in front of you a person to whom there is a negative. Imagine a radiant ray of love emerging from the center of your chest. Shine on your counterpart with this radiance, like a flashlight. Imagine that your enemy also created the same radiance of love and illuminated you. This is your imagination, and there you can imagine anything. And so you stand and shine on each other. Then start dancing mentally - first, each in its own rhythm, and then in pairs. We danced a little and say goodbye in the same way. After this technique, they are great. relationship.
7. Tab If there is anger /resentment on your partner, take advantage of the moment when these emotions appear and speak about them out loud, without belittling or exaggerating their intensity. Be sure to tell me exactly what caused your negativity. Do not let go, just breathe in and calmly declare: "How angry I am when you do this." Be sure to listen to your partner and express your expectations. Sometimes it is good to repeat the conversation summary out loud to each other. And most importantly - do not expect immediate action from your partner, give him time to understand what has been said.
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