Or husbands do not leave a good wife.
Common and hackneyed phrases that are spoken by women who have not yet faced treason, or faced, but resigned themselves to it, convincing themselves that "it is her own fault."
And also men use this phrase to remove themselves from the guilt for what they have done and transfer it to the "bad" wife.
There are, of course, wives, from whom it is not easy to walk, but from whom you want to run.
Well, go away. Why deceive yourself and others?
It turns out that if a man lives with a woman, then everything suits him. And if he lives with her and cheats, then everything suits him too.
Because if it didn’t suit him, he would have left his wife and was already building a new relationship.
Contrary to popular belief that men "think in only one place," I can say that they are not. Men think more like this:
Well, here I already know everything, here it is familiar and comfortable, but what awaits me with another woman is not clear.
Men, like women, are afraid of changes in their usual and stable life, they sit in their familiar place and unnecessary movements are a great stress for them. And why are they? Leaving your wife, you can run into even worse. Well, him in fig!
Therefore, the reasoning that you will be super ideal and the man will never leave you is sheer nonsense!
Ideals are different for everyone. Even the most disgusting and not generally accepted wife, for some, is the ultimate dream. And the most ideal and wonderful, it gets a lump in the throat in the first couple of years.
If you describe the ideal, you get something like a hybrid of a cleaning lady with a priestess of love.
But a person is so valuable because he has a rich inner world and we are all individuals. Any "fitting" to the ideal is an attempt to blind a "robotic" person who, at the push of a button, will execute your commands. And this is no longer a man - it is a machine for fulfilling needs.
What is actually the reason for cheating?
As practice shows, they do not cheat on those who do not dissolve in partners, who have their own life and interests, who do not elevate their husband to the cult.
But just those very ideal, smiling, smooth-shaven, good and comfortable become victims of betrayal.
Because at the level of instinct, a man wants to hunt! But how to do this if there is always a wordless victim nearby? For which not only to hunt, but from it I want to run away!
Therefore, do not try to build something out of yourself and adapt completely to your loved one. It is not appreciated.
If you are a person, individual and interesting, then the likelihood of cheating will be much less.
Well, if you do come across this, do not blame yourself. Usually, this happens solely at the request of the cheater, and not because of your behavior.
