Your cute baby has become aggressive and constantly strives to hit you. What is the reason for this fighting behavior? What is the right way to react to childish quarrelsomeness? What if the child is beating?
There are many reasons why this happens, and this, of course, depends on the child himself. But there are basic patterns of such behavior and options for solving the problem.
Emotions over the edge
As a rule, the first precedents appear in the year. And the mother gets the first blows, which is quite logical, because the child is most attached to her. The reason is overexcitement, when emotions are overflowing. The child does not yet know what to do with the feelings and tension that overwhelm him and relieves him with the help of fists.
The most important recommendation for parents is not to laugh back. True, from the outside it looks very funny when the little bobblehead waves its fist. But this will only reinforce the positive assessment of the blows. Offer an alternative to fists - this is how you can stroke your mom, look. And be sure to speak out the emotions. For example, "You are tired, I understand."
I protest
Very often the desire to hit arises on restrictions or prohibitions. The more of them, the more negative the reaction. Often grandmothers sin with this: don't go there, then don't do it, don't touch it.
Assess the prohibitions soberly. Leave only those that really threaten the life and health of the child. For example, you can't stick your fingers into a power outlet, but you can walk through puddles. Over time, the child will react more calmly and calmly to a clear list of unshakable restrictions. Offer an alternative where there is disagreement. For example, a child wants to jump off the couch. But that's high. Offer him another option - let it be pillows that lie on the floor and you can jump on them.
Boundary check
After two, the child begins to test this world for strength: what is possible and what is not, and what will be, if I do this, etc. He checks the boundaries of what is permissible, and here it is important to establish where they are end.
Say it many times: you cannot beat your mother! / istockphoto.com
If this does not work, and the child is still swinging at you, intercept the hand. Tell mom not to be beaten. Say this as often as possible.
Inability to show love
Often times, a child uses his fists to attract attention. Remember, he is aggressive when, for example, you are talking on the phone? Or are they busy with their own business? In any case, show how to show love properly. Show this by example.
If the baby still hit you, leave the room. The child is left without you and this is the strongest punishment.
You can also ask, for example, your husband, to feel sorry for you at such moments. Let the baby see what his blows lead to and how other relatives react to them.
Little physical activity
Throwing out emotions with fists is physical aggression. This happens when the baby is not very active: he often moves in a stroller, sits at a tablet or a book. Encourage your child to play active, run, play ball, buy a scooter or balance bike.
Strikes back
The child copies the model of behavior in the family / istockphoto.com
The child copies the model of behavior in the family / istockphoto.com
If it is customary in a family to punish a child with spanking, do not expect him to behave differently. Aggression breeds aggression. Moreover, in the child, it will manifest itself not only to the parents, but also to the surrounding children. Here is advice to parents - reconsider your behavior.
Should I give change?
The most controversial and controversial recommendation. Psychologists are sure: you cannot respond with blow to blow. But experienced parents believe that it is enough to give change a couple of times, and the issue will be resolved once and for all. However, this only works with dads. Moms are so worried so as not to hurt the child that spanking in response is regarded as the game and have no effect.
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