Both partners must work on the relationship. And the most important lesson is precisely this. Many “turn on” their pride where they could be softer, do not know how to compromise, and then bite their elbows when they are left alone with their creepy character.
But there are other lessons that a person often learns when a breakup has already occurred.
Everyone has only one other half - this is a myth.
I do not know who came up with this nonsense, but really about the second half, the belief is deceptive, incorrect. How many lives it destroyed! Many people have such a way of life - they will tie the knot of relationships or marriage, endure pain, humiliation, insults, thinking that this is my only one, some kind of no, but mine, well, or mine. And they endure their whole life, thinking that this is fate.
This is generally wrong! If the relationship is toxic and unhealthy, then it's best to leave. And this does not mean at all that you will not find anyone else for yourself, and will never be happy. People who suit us are not unique on this planet! It is important that there is someone with whom you can achieve your goals and grow, develop.
The main thing is not appearance
These young people are more greedy for a beautiful appearance, but older people look not at external qualities, but at internal ones. Beauty is superficial, and maturity is needed for a relationship to be productive, healthy and long. This does not mean that you do not need to take care of yourself. Well-groomed is important, but nevertheless, it is not the wrapper that attracts more, but the inner content of the person. You choose a partner for life, communication, you have to solve many issues, get along, put up with character traits. And will there be any sense in this case from the appearance if you behave like a child, constantly take offense, do not have goals in life? No, it will not.
There are no guarantees
You can never be sure that your relationship will end with the phrase "and they lived happily ever after." Everything is encountered in life, the only constancy in life is change. Accordingly, people also change. You should not ignore this fact, because someday you will break your heart because of this. First of all, you need to learn to love yourself, not your partner. Learn to live happily alone, try not to get attached. But, of course, you don't need to drive into your head that you will definitely part. Just live, enjoy, but always be ready for change and change.
A marriage after a failed relationship can be a failure.
Do not think that if you and your partner are always facing a number of relationship problems, getting married will help fix that. A marriage after a failed relationship often becomes unsuccessful too. When just a relationship ends, then this "disaster" affects only two people. When a marriage breaks up, it is already a social "catastrophe", because it affects not only partners, but also their children, other relatives, and close friends. It is wise here to end an unhealthy relationship on time instead of hoping that things will work out after the wedding. Or solve problems before marriage. The fact is that during the relationship stage, people try to look their best. But relationships don't get better in marriage when people just relax.
What lessons have you learned from failed relationships?
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