Everything in the world revolves around the relationship between a man and a woman. And no matter how many people try to prove to everyone around that relationships are not the main thing, what is important to them only self-development and realization, sooner or later, everyone comes to the fact that without relationships in our world no way.
Everyone wants to see a person next to them who will share with them joys, sorrows, successes and failures.
The consequence of this attitude, and natural desire, has always been and will be the continuation of the race. People want to pass on their character traits, appearance and strengths to children. And you can't take everything you've earned and acquired to the grave with you, you need to give it all to someone.
So why am I writing all this? I'll tell you now. This article was prompted by the situation described below.
Those who use social networks know such a "trick" when under a post in any "public" the first you see the comments of your acquaintances or friends, to which you are subscribed and who are subscribed on you.
So, one day, flipping through the news feed of one of the social networks, I saw a photo of the cutest child and the caption to it - "the dream of every girl." The photo was cute and it made me smile.
But, when my gaze slid over the comments on the post, I was distorted.
One of my friends wrote the following - "the photo makes me disgusted... little bastards... why should they make someone happy ???".
Having opened the following comments, it became clear that there are a lot of girls and women with such an opinion. And they all wrote that children ruin life and that they look disgusting and terrible. What is better to have a cat, dog or parrot. They have less worries. Animals love unconditionally and will not give up. They are obedient. They won't trade you for another person or hurt you.
I will not write what "name-calling" the representatives of the beautiful half of humanity threw to this photo, but "geeks" are the most harmless of all that I had to read.
The first reaction was to write, ask, find out!
What's wrong with you? How can that be? Why are you writing such nasty things? Is there really nothing sacred in you? It's just a child. Small, defenseless, cute, who joyfully and carelessly looks at this world, not expecting a catch. And you write such things ...
Then the realization came that since these young ladies had such an attitude about the child's photo, it means that they most likely treat themselves in this way in childhood, and that is how their parents treated them.
They were not wanted, repulsed, insulted and called names.
Transferring this pain into adulthood, they do not even realize that their aversion to children has nothing to do with procreation. They simply cannot accept themselves as children. Because they were not taught to love themselves, and therefore children in general.
They were taught that children are a burden, that children are annoying and only worries from them. Therefore, it seems to them that children are disgusting, that it is better not to have them.
After realizing this, it became easier, but the ladies who wrote all sorts of nasty things wanted to give a psychotherapist contact, who would put their heads in their place. Although, I very much doubt that these "child-haters" understand that they have problems. Most likely, they believe that those who want children or have them have problems.
On this topic, there is a wonderful saying by the American writer Pearl Buck - "children who do not love become adults who do not know how to love."
In general, if you think globally, then it is better for such people not to have children. Nothing good will come of it. In general, this approach benefits our planet, it is already overpopulated.
And if we are to give birth to children, then it is better for those who really want this and can give them the love and care that they need so much.
