Cheating is something that most people simply cannot forgive. But there are things that also hurt relationships a lot. On this we do not focus our attention so much, well, or we are looking for an excuse for a person, we give him a second chance. It's probably because things like this don't seem serious to us, but the truth is, they can jeopardize relationships.
Here are some things that can hurt a relationship a lot.
False
Absolutely no lie is acceptable in a relationship, even if it’s salvation. Let's say you understand that your partner is lying to you, but he justifies this by simply deciding to regret your feelings. But because of secrecy and any deception, scandals and quarrels arise in relationships. All trust is broken, fear appears, suddenly you will be deceived again. And is there any point in continuing such a relationship?
Manipulation
At first, you may not even notice it, but over time it will begin to intensify. As a result, the manipulation ends with the fact that one person feels like a complete failure, and the other feels powerful and omnipotent. And this kind of relationship is unhealthy.
Silence and disregard
In a couple, lovers should talk, even when there is a misunderstanding between them. You need to learn to make compromises, discuss the problems that have arisen, and not play in silence. We can all make mistakes, but we must admit them. Sometimes one partner does not behave very well in a relationship. And the second is simply silent, endures, closes his eyes, indulges. And in his soul, he begins to repel his soul mate. Over time, the partner begins to look at a loved one and see only what he does not like. In general, when you don't like something, you cannot ignore it and keep silent, you need to talk about everything.
The need to always be right
Everyone wants to be right. But, if one of the partners begins to control absolutely everything, this is the end of the relationship. If this is not stopped, it will not end very well. It is important that everyone can speak their mind, find understanding in the eyes of their partner. Somewhere you need to make concessions, find a compromise. Sometimes it is better to choose a good relationship with your loved one, instead of proving your case with foam at the mouth.
Lack of communication
Communication is the key to a healthy relationship. Conflicts can arise between you and this is completely normal! But in such moments, communication is just important, otherwise you yourself will devalue and destroy the relationship with your own hands.
It's just comfortable for you together
First there was sympathy, then passion, love. And then there was some kind of cooling in the relationship, but you still stay together, because you are so comfortable. It is a big mistake to look at your partner in silence, understand that you made a mistake with a choice, and stay together. Here, either you need to find out everything, or it is better to part.
Lack of emotional support
Who else can you expect support from if not from a partner? You don't get it, and you constantly live with the thought that you miss it. Here even hatred for a loved one can arise.
Jealousy
Jealousy is not a sign of love, it is a sign of possessiveness. In particular, jealousy is dangerous for relationships, when partners begin to find fault with each other, in every word and in every movement to see treason - this is a threat to the union.
Unnatural
We want to appear better than we are, so sometimes we have to pretend. But this is not good if we have to wear a different mask, hide something, pass ourselves off as not who we are. Would it be unpleasant for you to find out months or even years later that your partner is completely different from what he was with you? This is the same as cheating.
You need to constantly work on relationships, then they will be healthy and strong!
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