Ordered to survive: TOP-5 effective rules from a psychologist to properly organize life and work from home during quarantine
Kiev entered the regime of strict quarantine restrictions. From today, transport does not work, kindergartens and schools are closed, and all enterprises are advised to transfer work to remote mode. For many parents, this is a real test of strength. To make the children sit down for their studies, and themselves for work. Feed the children, take the children for a walk, make them do their homework, return to work. Prepare food, go back to work. At the same time, it is necessary to maintain the semblance of order in the house and try not to shout, because for children, lockdown is also stress. The well-known child psychologist Svetlana Royce, on her page on the social network, told how to organize her life in quarantine in such a way as to be as effective as possible and at the same time not to go crazy.
Share the problem
If in the morning you do not feel like opening your eyes, because the problem called "quarantine" presses on your chest with its iron heel, divide it into parts. In any difficult life situation, psychologists advise breaking the problem into two categories. The first is what we can do to somehow solve the problem. In the second - that which does not lend itself to our influence. Try to accept quarantine as rain outside the window: you cannot stop it by any inhuman effort. However, in the short term, you may well grab an umbrella and go out shopping.
In this sense, it is very useful to live in “short episodes” without getting too far ahead. There is no need to think about what and how you will do tomorrow, and even more so in a week. Turn the strategy of your life into tactics, and plan today as efficiently as possible for yourself and your loved ones.
Write a daily routine
During work, you can only be touched in case of emergency / istockphoto.com
The regime of the day in conditions of force majeure is that little that you can control. A simple sheet of paper with daily plan items on the refrigerator creates a kind of skeleton of the day, which is very convenient to lean on when all other landmarks are gone. Such a plan will keep you on your toes and prevent you from slipping into helpless panic. If from 10 to 12 you have lessons and work, and then according to the schedule lunch and a walk with the dog, there is no time to panic.
Get your loved ones to respect these temporary rules: daily regime everyone needs to observe. Once you get into a rut, in a few days you will feel how much easier, more comfortable, and calmer you will become. By the way, this approach to organizing the day is very useful for children - especially for preschoolers and primary school students. Whatever one may say, before the quarantine they lived according to the schedule of educational institutions, therefore home "confusion and wobbling" will only at first be to their taste. And in the long run, nothing but stress will bring.
Set a time frame
Even a small child is able to play on his own for a while.
A well-defined daily routine (as long as it is followed) will allow you not to mix work and home, even working from home. Set one or more times throughout the day, and tell them that during these times you can only be touched in the event of a fire. Here mothers of young children will say that this is not feasible, because the child constantly requires attention. However, already from the age of three, the baby is quite capable of playing independently for some time.
“If we do not constantly entertain the child, he will learn to occupy himself over time. Moreover, he will learn to enjoy this time alone with himself, he will have the opportunity to express himself creatively. Even a small child does not need the presence of a mother nearby 24/7. And for children over three or four years old, such vigilant attention is harmful, ”says Svetlana Royz.
Don't pull in all directions
Do not put cleanliness and perfect order in the apartment at the forefront / istockphoto.com
It is impossible to be in time everywhere and everything in quarantine mode. Physically, you will not be able to work, work, teach studies, pay attention to the child, support an apartment in sterile cleanliness and at the same time provide households with the first, second and compote for each of meals. “Nothing bad will happen if your family eats dumplings, pasta or pizza. Such one-time actions will not bring much harm to the stomach, but at least sometimes my mother will be able to “exhale” and not be torn between the stove and work, ”notes Svetlana Roiz.
It's the same with cleanliness. It is clear that when everyone is at home, the apartment resembles "Mama's massacre" within half an hour after the general cleaning. However, believe me, there is nothing critical in this, and “others” have a picture about the same now. Put your perfectionism aside and don't scrub your floors every day. Don't put your kids' toys in their places - this useless job eats up a lot of your time. It will be much more effective in maintaining cleanliness to give a feasible task to the child. “Now it is important to distribute responsibilities. Let the child have some kind of task around the house, for which only he is responsible, "advises Svetlana Roiz.
Take time for yourself
Leave at least half an hour for your favorite activity to relax / istockphoto.com
In all this whirlwind of work and home life, it is very important not to get bogged down completely and completely. Otherwise, after a few days you will feel complete moral and physical exhaustion. However, your daily schedule should include at least half an hour for favourite hobbythat will bring you pleasure and will replenish your internal resources. If it’s a walk with a dog, it’s a must without telephones and work negotiations. If this is a bathtub, then it is strictly alone with yourself, without household knocking on the door and asking to urgently pour some water.
Do not forget to "replenish the balance" of internal energy, and do not hesitate to ask family members to be with the child during this time. Moreover, nothing terrible will happen if he watches cartoons at this time. “A little overcrowding of cartoons in a child's life will be fully justified if we have time take a little rest, and we will return to him and to household chores more adequate, - Svetlana soothes Royz. - In fact, a child can easily survive 30-40% of our insanity. But in order to be sane for the remaining 60-70%, it is important not to forget to take care of yourself. "
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