A friend here told me a rather unpleasant story, asks for advice, but I don’t want to offend her, and I understand that she messed up pretty well. Now I will write everything in detail, and I will be grateful if you can suggest anything.
So, Vika got married about 5 years ago to a very good man. His parents were not rich. Sami from the village, there was a small farm, now they are engaged in farming in general, they have made a good fortune for themselves. Now they provide for themselves and help their son and wife constantly. In any case, a couple always has their own meat, vegetables, and fruits in their house. In general, everything that is now expensive, they have for free.
Vika had normal relations with her husband's relatives, at least, until one unpleasant moment. Her family is not well off, but from the middle class. But all their lives they lived in the city, and the attitude towards the villagers was always disdainful. And the father-in-law is just like that - you can't go anywhere, hands with labor calluses, and mother-in-law with the figure of a woman on a samovar. But the relationship between the brothers-in-law was always normal, although they rarely saw each other, did not collide in everyday life, but only for some "great" events gathered in the children's home.
So Vicki's father-in-law always gave her something tasty from the village. For 5 years they have already studied the tastes of their daughter-in-law, and especially for her, they sometimes traveled hundreds of kilometers to bring her favorite dulk tomatoes, bell peppers, allspice, apricots, strawberries, homemade cheese and sour cream. In general, Vika is constantly in the hotel, and, probably, spoiled herself with this. In addition, the father-in-law consider Vika to be a good daughter-in-law and an excellent wife for their son. The boy is happy, clean, well-fed, and it is for all this that they thank his wife. They always treated her with respect, never went in with their advice and morality, before arrival they always warned her, made expensive gifts. And there were never conflicts between them and Vika. There was simply nothing to take from them, there was nothing to share, it was still good!
I myself know Vicki's father-in-law. And I will say that they are very good people, kind, generous, hospitable, yes, simple-minded, but on the contrary, I really like such people. But recently, a friend began to complain that her husband's relatives have become somehow intrusive, tortured with their apricots, sometimes they ask stupid questions. What questions might they have? Right! When will you give birth to your grandchildren? And now Vika says that she does not feel love for them, but she also has no disgust for them. But this is her attitude towards them, it so happens that people just do not like it for no particular reason.
Well, now, after such a long preface, to the heart of the problem. More recently, Vika and her husband were visiting his parents at their dacha. The father-in-law also built a large two-story building with their own money, planted everything with crops for every taste and color, and are now working in the sweat of their brow for the benefit of the whole family. So her mother called her friend, and she left the site behind the fence to talk to her.
And all would be fine, but Vika always discusses the behavior of her mother-in-law with her mother, laughs at them, tells ridiculous incidents and words. Vicki's mother is also good, she did not instill in her daughter respect for her elders. So a friend is standing and in paints tells her mother about the next pearls of her father-in-law and the appearance of her mother-in-law, she laughs heartily, stands by the fence on purpose so that no one can hear her. Then Vika hears a crunch, turns her head, and sees her husband's mother. It turns out that she stood all this time and heard the whole conversation, just tore raspberries near the fence, and Vika did not even notice her. I did not notice and showed my true face ...
Question: what to do? An apology will not help anymore, is the relationship ruined to the brink? It's hard for me to answer this question, because I understand that Vika behaved badly, but I don't want to offend her at all ...
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