Do you have peer friends? For example, it’s hard for me to imagine being friends with people in their twenties or those over 50. At the moment, my age range in terms of communication with people is from 25 to 40 years old. Perhaps this will change with age, and I, just like the hero of this story, will understand that when you are over 50, it is very harmful to be friends with people of the same age!
“Last month I saw my classmates. More precisely, with former classmates. Many years have passed since leaving school, now we are all 50-51 years old. To put it bluntly, it was very difficult for me to communicate with them. We have not seen someone for 15 years, and some I have not seen since grade 11. So I was just in shock when I saw everyone, I never expected that a circle of old people would appear before me. Through one they all have glasses. One classmate mumbled something about his aching back, and the second talked about the healing effect of valerian tincture. It was the worst night in a while. No joy, no happiness from the meeting. I don't want to meet with them anymore, what should I talk about next time, about artificial flowers or just about coffins?
I can't do that. Of course, I will always come to the aid of these people if needed, but I'd rather meet with them less often. Such communication is unpleasant for me, it has an extremely negative effect, both on my mental health and on my physical health. It's scary to think that just yesterday one of my classmates was a hefty athlete, but now he doesn't care about sports, and his back hurts. Quite recently, my second classmate was lively and engaged in business, and now he is looking for ways to calm his nerves and is promoting valerian. I agree, maybe my health is to blame, and I don't know what will happen to my body or nerves tomorrow. But I am convinced that communication with such uncles and aunts who have buried themselves still alive has a very detrimental effect on me.
I chose to communicate with young people! I myself have children of 20 and 25 years old, and I like to communicate with their peers. They are full of strength, cheerful, positive, and do not make me a sickly grandfather, like my former classmates. I, of course, will not dye my hair and beat tattoos, because my appearance will only cause laughter. I will remain myself, I will ask young people for advice, I will be easy-going, and I will not be a bore!
Maybe for some it will be a surprise, but many young girls and guys are very happy to talk to old people. They give me advice, initiating into the secrets of the modern world, I give advice to them, sharing my life experience. And all of this is good, everyone is happy. It seems to me that I am charged with youthful energy and look younger! I can recommend this experience to ladies over 50, it works better than any Botox!
If you do not have the opportunity to communicate with young people, then just communicate with your children. They are already independent and adult individuals, and they know so much about modern realities! I've traveled with my children on vacation, and I really liked it. We lived in the same room, chatted until late at night, danced to modern music. And I never once felt like a stranger at this youth get-together, I was full of energy and happy!
What would happen if I went on a similar trip with my peers? I would not leave the room, because then someone's leg hurt, then the pressure jumped, then something else happened. We would end up quarreling and leaving.
Therefore, I do not want to meet with my peers anymore, I will always help them if necessary, but we will definitely not succeed in any friendship. All these senile ahi-sighs have a detrimental effect on my physical and mental health. I'm starting to fade and be sad! "
What do you think about this? Is it really harmful to communicate with your peers when you are already over 50? What experience do you have?
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