Tell me, do you have such thoughts that, forgive me, only "goats" are attracted to you? Or are you, say, stuck in a toxic relationship? Don't worry, you are not the only one. It happens to many, and it is worth a little work on yourself to make everything work out. I think now, finally, the very moment has come when you need to change something in your life. Change at the root! You need not only to part with a toxic gentleman, but also to make sure that such specimens are no longer attracted into your life!
Here's how to do it!
Understand what you are worth
Most often, toxic people find themselves a warm place next to those who are calm about their bad behavior, who can tolerate their antics, insults and humiliation. If they are given a turn from the gate, they quickly merge. It's time for you to understand what you are worth, realize that you deserve more than what you get every day. You are worthy of love, pure, beautiful, real, and you don't need another drama in your life. Love is either there or it is not. If you feel bad, stuffy, uncomfortable with a person, then you better let him go free, because it will only get worse further.
Stop making excuses for a toxic guy
Stop hiding its toxicity, justifying it by saying, "He's not as bad as you think, you just don't know him well!" In fact, you know perfectly well that he is a real "goat". No, he does not need to be given time to reveal himself as a good person. The good ones do not take any time, they are immediately visible, among other things, like toxic ones.
Set clear boundaries and stick to them
As soon as you stop defending your boundaries, the toxic man starts wiping his feet on you! Therefore, it is time to learn, no matter what, to adhere to your boundaries. If it doesn't work out, and you continue to be used, of course, you need to leave.
Stop always being nice
It is clear that all of us were raised by our parents so that we would grow up to be good people. But, it is important to be more careful so that those around you do not start to use your kindness, responsiveness and desire to always come to the rescue. Be kind and nice only when you are treated the same way. Understand that only you are responsible for your happiness, safety and comfort.
Raise your standards and don't lower them
You don't have to endure and close your eyes to what you don't like. Stop it. Set your standards, and never lower them, even if you really like the guy.
Rid yourself of the drama
Toxic men love it when someone solves their problem. This is what is exhausting, both physically and psychologically. Understand that you cannot solve other people's problems, if a man is not able to deal with his own life on his own, you will not help him in any way. You don't have to do anything for him!
Surround yourself with kind, positive people who support you.
Try to get more people you know with a positive outlook on life. Sometimes it's hard to figure out a toxic person until you know what a healthy relationship they are. Good positive people will help you navigate, you will quickly understand the difference.
Stop being afraid and start saying what you think
You need determination, only then can you break this cycle of toxic relationships. If you do not like something in a man's behavior, immediately tell him about it, you do not need to justify and endure him.
Put yourself first
The only person you should love and care about is you. Nobody will give you as much love as you yourself! Therefore, in a relationship, you should be for yourself in the very first place. Love yourself, value yourself, and learn to say no.
I wish you to meet in your life as many good positive people as possible! And let all toxic ones bypass you!
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